Questioning Social Media

Hello beautiful readers!

The current world is a really interesting place to be in. We have such instant access to… well, just about anything and everything. It’s all about convenience it seems.

To me, social media is one of those necessary evils of this culture/society. It’s become such a huge thing, something people can’t seem to live without. And I struggle with that at times.

Five or six years ago I was probably more open on my social media accounts, but as my life has changed, I no longer post as much as I used to. I shared a wedding picture a few weekends ago and said a few sweet things about The Husband, but that might have been the first time I actually wrote anything on Facebook in the last month.


I’m content with my life not being all over the internet (ironic, I know) and I don’t really like sharing all sorts of daily moments for everyone to see – even if that everyone is family and close friends. I hoard those moments and memories for myself and it doesn’t cross my mind to snap a picture for my Instagram story. I like to share a few thoughts at certain times, like our wedding anniversary or when we announced my pregnancy, but I’m not one to wax poetic all day every day. I want to go home at night and spend my evening with my husband and cats, not catching up with everyone’s latest thing.

The struggle though, comes up because since I want to work from home with my own business, social media has to come into play. That’s just how people communicate now, that’s where so much of the information is. Businesses need to have active and well-used social media accounts in order to look professional and trustworthy. But as hard as I try, I can never seem to achieve any sort of consistency. My business Facebook page might have four or five posts a month right now – I don’t even get around to sharing all the blog posts that I write. And Instagram is even worse… granted, I love the format, I love getting the right picture and the perfect caption to make my page look pretty. But that doesn’t mean I remember to actually do it. The Instagram story is a little easier, but I’m still lucky if I update it once every other day. And don’t even get me started on the other platforms… I STILL don’t understand how Twitter works, and Snapchat is too… something. Believe me, I’ve tried and I can’t understand the appeal or the process. Maybe it’s too tech-y for me? I don’t know.

I do find that in many circles it becomes a competition, even a rat-race, to see who can have the most interaction on social media, the most friends/followers/views/etc. And that kind of attitude is so harmful, not only to an individual’s mental health, but also to real relationships and families. I can be honest enough to say that sometimes the competition gets to me too, when I scroll through Instagram and see the lovely façade that so many people are putting out there. It can make me feel like my life isn’t good enough or that I should be doing more.

One of my minor concerns, too, is that the internet still isn’t exactly the safest place to be. So should we be plastering our lives all over it? Should we be sharing where we’re eating dinner every night or the details of our relationships? Is it the best idea to talk about every aspect of our children’s lives on a public platform? I don’t have the answers, but I do think about it quite a bit, and it does make me hold back more than I might otherwise.

It’s not easy to know what to do and I definitely find it a struggle to strike a balance with how to use social media all while not getting caught up in the hype and insanity of it all. I definitely don’t plan to change how much of my life goes onto my Facebook page, but I know I need to work on my business strategies. The question is where to draw my line in the sand.

I know I’m not the only one questioning the culture and society that we live in. I know its a difficult balance for many – I know several people who find it much easier just to remove themselves from social media entirely and personally, I applaud that decision. And yet the world we live in practically requires us to be visible online at some point or another. Maybe we just need to learn how to limit and manage our time more wisely (I know I do). Maybe we need to move away from the instant expectations that are becoming so prevalent. I just don’t know. But I do know that we should be conscious of the way the world is moving and choose our own path through it all. It’s still everyone’s personal choice and I think more of us need to remember that.

Love and kindness, always!

Katharine Marie

Posted by Katharine Espinosa

Katharine is a freelance writer, editor, and aspiring author. She loves coffee, chocolate, cats, and riding her horses on the weekends. She lives in rural Texas with her husband and daughter.

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