3 Marriage Things

Hello dear readers!

This week feels like it has been extremely long. Not sure why, since I’ve been sleeping better and feeling pretty good overall! But whatever the reason is, I’m just glad it’s Friday now and the weekend is almost here.

As someone who deals with both depression and anxiety on a regular basis, relationships are one of the harder things for me. I’m awful at admitting I need help, I usually try to hide my mental episodes so that they don’t burden the other person or bring them down, etc, etc. And yet somehow I’ve ended up with a great partner and a strong marriage and nothing has blown up!


Maybe he’s not perfect, but The Husband deserves a lot more than I give back and part of the reason we work so well together is that he is SO patient, inhumanly so. He is definitely a saint. But beyond that, I figured I would share a couple of the things that I believe keep us together and as happy as we are. Of course, these are things that relate directly to my own relationship, but from what I’ve seen of other great relationships, they seem to be fairly common denominators.

An Equal Partnership

I’ll be the first to admit that this is hard for me, but I also strongly believe that there has to be full trust and equality in a relationship if it’s going to work, so I keep practicing anyways. We don’t get to make decisions without at least running it by the other person first and we treat everything as belonging to both of us or being a joint effort. Yes, there are days that I’m not 100% and he has to take care of everything, but there are days where the opposite is true as well, and that’s totally normal.


This is the best part, at least to me. We don’t have any trouble making each other laugh whatsoever and it’s awesome. Somehow we manage to joke around at least a little bit in almost every situation, which makes it fun just being together, regardless of what we’re doing or where we’re at. I know that as long as we’re laughing, we’ll stay together!

Balancing Act

Balance can apply to almost anything, but one of the more important ones for us is striking a balance between the time we spend on our own personal interests and the time we spend doing things together. I’m definitely the one who needs more time for myself, which just means that I have to keep that balance in mind. It’s definitely important to have at least one thing that we both enjoy and can do together regularly, but it’s also just as important for each of us to have time out with friends or a hobby that the other person maybe doesn’t have an interest in. That balance is what keeps us from getting bored, stuck in a rut or just from finding petty things to argue over.

I think every good relationship has a few key aspects that help to hold it together – these three are the ones that I find the most important for us. If something feels off, more often than not, it’s one of those aspects that needs some attention to get us back on track.

What would be your key aspects to a good relationship?

Love and kindness,

Katharine Marie

Posted by Katharine Espinosa

Katharine is a freelance writer, editor, and aspiring author. She loves coffee, chocolate, cats, and riding her horses on the weekends. She lives in rural Texas with her husband and daughter.

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