Balance at Home

Hello beautiful folks!
Another week is almost over, and August is nearly over too – can you believe it? I kind of can, but just because 2020 has seemed like the longest year EVER. Ugh.
I’ve been talking a lot this month about how mental health problems can affect everyday life and rambled on about a few ways that I deal with and handle those things. Balance is not something that comes easy to me – I get very hyper-focused and then can’t have trouble getting other things done properly. Its something I’ve had to work on, especially now being a stay-at-home mom because its impossible to hyper-focus on something when your child also needs something, and dinner is trying to burn on the stove. You know what I mean…

Home Life is Hard

I’ve mentioned how this affects relationships and thought processes and all those things before, and it just overall affects my home life when I can’t balance myself out well enough. I don’t just stay at home with the baby. I also keep the house clean, I’m taking online college classes, doing some writing jobs here and there, spending time on my own hobbies, cooking three meals a day. And I also believe that parenting is more than just keeping a kid alive, it’s the engagement and schedules and teaching, etc, so add that into the mix too. There’s a lot of things that are vying for my attention all day every day. It’s hard to strike the right balance.

Priorities Fluctuate

Many times, the assumption is that once we get our priorities straight, everything else will fall into place. I want to say NO. That’s not the magical solution. Do I think priorities are important? Yes, absolutely, and I write about mine all the time in my journals. But while your overall priorities in life might stay the same, your everyday priorities will change.
My number one priority every day of the week is to take care of the Tiny Princess. And about half the time, I do drop all the other things on my list to play with her because that’s what she needs or wants that day. But it would be a disaster if I never made house cleaning a priority or if I dropped the ball on my writing work. Each day is different.

Maintaining That Mental Health

Maintaining the house, keeping the laundry done, working: all are things that keep us healthy and happy. Without them, our lives just don’t operate nearly as well, if at all. Some days it’s hard for me to clean the house because of the anxiety it gives me (that’s a whole different topic), but I’ve learned that the more I stay on top of the housework, the easier it is. And then I don’t feel so overwhelmed. Much, much easier that way. So for me, maintaining the house actually is a priority because its a self-care thing. When I look at it like that, I feel more motivated.

Don’t Compare

Again, something that could be a topic all of its own, but please don’t compare yourself to other people. They are not you. Their lives look nothing like yours, so what’s the point? Trust me, I’m speaking to myself as much as anyone else right now. Comparison only eats away at you. If you can focus instead on what you believe to be right for you, your family, and your life, you’ll be much happier and find that balance so much easier.

What area of your life could use a little more balance?

Love, light, and happiness!

-Katharine Marie

Posted by Katharine Espinosa

Katharine is a freelance writer, editor, and aspiring author. She loves coffee, chocolate, cats, and riding her horses on the weekends. She lives in rural Texas with her husband and daughter.

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