Life of a Writer

Five Years of Choices

Hey there, all you lovely folks out in the big wide world!

I’ve been in that weird mental space lately where I’ve been thinking about everything that has happened in my life and the choices that I made that led to where I am today.

Five years ago I was getting ready to head off to university. According to the plan I had at that time, 2020 would have been the year I would have started teaching/working/something, likely moved into the Dallas area (or another metroplex). I had zero intentions of settling down or having kids for a looonnnggg time yet. Don’t you just love how life doesn’t turn out the way we planned? It’s great.

My brain is very inconsistent sometimes. It’s very hard for me to let go of that one inconsequential thing I didn’t do yesterday and kick myself for that. But do I wish I hadn’t gone to university, struggled really really hard, and spent a crapload of money for three rough semesters that would leave me totally confused about what I really wanted out of my life? No, not really. I could easily look back and see where I could have made better choices or done things better/differently, but I don’t regret the journey that brought me to where I am today.

I learned SO MUCH about music during the years I spent studying and pursuing that career. I may be out of practice right now, but even without playing regularly, I’m still a pretty great pianist and that’s a skill I value highly.

The first semester I spent at university, I leased a lovely little horse and took weekly lessons for several months. It was easy to think that I failed at my horse goals because ultimately it was expensive/time consuming and I ended the lease in order to focus on my music classes. But in actuality, even four years later, I’m still feeling the effects of what I learned in those lessons and from that horse when I ride Lady. That’s worth it.

I might have felt lost. I might have spent my time in questionable ways. I may have spent too many late nights out on the town because I was confused. I might have ended up in the wrong relationships. But I learned from every single thing that happened.

I stressed myself out. I cried. I got a new kitten. I had a lot of panic attacks. I spent hours pounding away on super expensive pianos and questioning my career choice the entire time. I took criticism. I made good and bad grades. I discovered a unique love for music history (that was unexpected). I failed a class for the first time in my life. I struggled with money and then spent half a month’s earnings on my first tattoo – because I wanted to. I made and lost friends. I worked long hours and went into debt for the first time.

Basically, the first few years of “adulthood” were hard for me. And I think, in a way, they should be that way. It was rough being on my own for the first time. Plus, I’m stubbornly independent and will not ask for help unless it’s extremely dire. So I needed to learn a few lessons.

But I don’t regret the choices that I made or the experiences that I had. None of it was a waste of time or money. I didn’t think I would end up where I did, but I’m also not the same person I was five years ago. I still don’t know what I’m doing half the time. I had no idea what I was doing when I said yes to The Husband’s proposal and I had no idea what I was thinking when I said I wanted a baby. But those were the two decisions that led to the most happiness I could ever ask for in a lifetime.

I’m still searching for more, and I think I always will be, to some extent. But truthfully, I could not ask for a better life. I’m grounded and truly confident in myself and what I believe. It’s a nice place to be.

Maybe this week I’ll manage to get out two posts again. I’ve been in the process of clearing more space in my schedule and school is tough this term, so it’s been a juggling act lately!


Until next time,

Love, light, and kindness,

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Silk + Sonder Planner Review

Hi beautiful dreamers!

Starting on Friday, we’ll get into some review posts, but today I wanted to pop in and tell you all about the new planner system I started using this month. Actually, “tell” is kind of a boring word – I’m going to rave a little bit.

I mentioned it on my social media pages back at the beginning of the month but on a whim, I gave into a handful of Instagram ads that had been pushing their way into my feed. One of those impulse ad-related purchases was a Silk + Sonder planner/journal.

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These planners are insanely pretty. They’re beautiful simplistic with well-placed accents to make them feel unique. The design work is just lovely overall – granted, I’ve only seen the June version in person, but there are plenty of video reviews from previous months, so it’s not just this month, it’s all the months.

Yes, months. This is a subscription-based planner. Silk + Sonder ships out a new planner/journal every month with a new theme so that you can start fresh each time. That factor on its own was what really drew me in. I love fresh starts and I tend to drag my planners around everywhere with me, so after a few months, they tend to look a bit ragged and then I start to lose interest. This is the last week of June and my S+S planner is still gorgeous. There are grease stains on one page and I’ve gotten a handful of pages a little sticky (thanks to the child, there are a lot of sticky surfaces around here). I definitely haven’t lost interest yet and the majority of the booklet looks brand new.

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The first portion of the booklet has a few calendar pages, just to give an overview of what’s happening big-picture style in your life. Then comes the tracker pages: moods, habits, gratitude. I have so much fun sitting down in the evening with my colored pencils and filling these in!

Next is the part that I’ve found more challenging to work with: the journaling section. June’s theme was “Choice” and there’s a spread of questions about setting boundaries in my life that are very thought-provoking and well-timed, at least for me.

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One of the cutest pages is the Self-Care Bingo page. It’s just plain adorable, but also a great page to go for inspiration when I feel the need to do something fun or treat myself.

There’s a couple of recipes, a coloring page, and then we get into what would be considered the “planner” portion of the journal. And let me tell you, this thing has everything I ever wanted: a shopping list section, a meal planner/tracker, goal setting, mental health, a mini habit tracker, and a spot for inspiration. It’s the perfect blend of journaling and planning, but much easier to work with than most other options out there.

If you love the idea of traditional bullet journaling, but find that its a lot of effort and it’s hard to make it work well for you (that’s how I am), then this might work out really well for you. I find that it has the right amount of structure combined with free space to keep me inspired and motivated. Honestly, this is the most productive and motivated month I’ve had in a very long time.

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I use the extra note pages for a variety of things: brainstorming meals for the week, notes from my therapy sessions, random ideas that pop into my head, whatever. I’ve been playing around with making little boxes to contain all these things, but it’s still a work in progress to see what I like best.

I’ve been recommending this planner to basically everyone I talk to, which is a testament to how much I love it. At first, I was going to hold off on making this post until I had been using it for two or three months, but I’m so obsessed already that I went ahead and did it now. I’m not getting paid to say this – I really just love it that much. Haha!

At almost $20 a month, it definitely is more pricey than other planner options, but I think it’s worth the mini splurge if it boosts my creativity AND productivity. My birthday present to myself is probably going to be the 12-month subscription if nothing changes between now and then. Even my husband thinks it is worth the extra money at this point! Plus, supporting a small business?! Win-win all around!

Side note: during lockdown, this lovely company started a new line of journals for kids! Obviously, my kiddo isn’t old enough yet, but in a few years, I’ll definitely be getting her a subscription of her own!

Silk + Sonder Website

Silk + Sonder Instagram

Silk + Sonder Kids


Love, light, and happiness all around!

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Therapy Experience

Hello beautiful humans and dreamers,

I’ve spent the last week in a lot of thought, taking in the social situations that the world has been dealing with. I’ve been listening, learning, understanding more and more about other people. It’s been fascinating, saddening, enlightening, and a whole host of other things, but I’m happy, in a way, that people are actually having hard conversations and standing up for other people. I have felt the need to stay quieter than normal, to allow others the chance to speak while I listen, and it’s been a much needed time period. I’m going to return to my regular posting schedule now, with a lot more awareness and empathy.

The easiest way to describe my blog lately would be as a mental health platform. I use it mainly to talk about ways to deal with mental health issues, to advocate for better care, break stereotypes, and create more dialogue about these chronic issues that plague our society. Just under 50 percent of all Americans will experience mental illness in some form during their lifetimes, yet there is still an immense amount of stigma surrounding their experiences.

One of the starting points for most people dealing with mental illness should be to see a counselor, therapist, or psychologist. But less than 35% of people will actually take that step. And many people, even if they do see a counselor or psychologist, will avoid talking about it to others because they are afraid of being judged.

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I saw a mental health counselor while I was at university. I went almost every week for about four months. I was finally referred to a wonderful facility after the Tiny Princess was born, and started seeing my current therapist approximately 2-3 months postpartum.

Even though I had been in therapy before, it was difficult to go back. It was just as hard for me to take that step and accept that the extra help was actually needed. Now that I’ve been going regularly for almost 6 months, it’s a lot easier to discuss with others.

Going to see someone is not a cure. Not in any way, shape, or form. Some psychologists or psychiatrists do prescribe medications or other therapies that can help, but right now there are no true “cures” for mental illnesses. That is a whole different topic, however…

There are plenty of times when I don’t feel like going (or logging on, in the current COVID situations, all my sessions are through video chat) or I think that “oh! I had a good week, I don’t need to talk to her yet.” In reality, sometimes those are the most productive and important sessions of all. When I’ve had a good week, it can be incredibly insightful to talk to someone who can decipher what was different and how I can replicate that in the future. On the days I “don’t feel like it,” she can encourage me to work through those feelings and come out on the other side with new strategies and fresh motivation. It doesn’t really matter what mindset I have going into a session though because it’s always good to be able to talk to someone who is there to listen without judgment and is 100% focused on helping me find a way through it.

It’s easy to think that going to see a counselor or therapist means giving up on yourself. It’s easy to think that you’ve failed and can no longer do things on your own. In reality, it’s the complete opposite. It takes strength to say “I need help.” It takes courage to face the issues in your mind and work your way through them and having someone to coach you through that struggle can only help.

Everyone faces different struggles and each of our minds work just a little bit differently, but I can honestly say that seeing someone who is trained in mental health can be the first step towards understanding yourself a little bit better. I might not have regular panic attacks or be drowning in depression like I was in the past, but the benefits that I’ve seen from my weekly sessions are enormous nonetheless.

I’m going to write up some more informative posts in the future about finding a therapist and possibly tips for getting the most out of a session, but for now, I simply wanted to share my experience.


Love, light, and kindness, particularly to those currently being oppressed,

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Writing for Film

Hi, all you beautiful people!

I’ve been doing a very wide and random assortment of writing projects lately. Of course, I’m writing posts for my various blogs, just like this one! I’ve also written dramas and essays on the 2nd-5th grade levels for work, and I even wrote a poem for the first writing assignment of my creative writing course.

And I’ve started becoming more interested in writing screenplays again lately. I wrote a set of short scripts last year to give to The Husband on our anniversary and it was a project, that’s for sure, but one that I actually enjoyed more than I thought. And then we attended a film festival back in March (before all the restrictions) and one of the panels piqued my interest in this form of writing again.

And THEN, I started getting deeper into these college courses and getting opportunities to actually practice and improve my screenwriting skills. Of course, my main focus is going to be fiction throughout these courses, but I still have assignments (and even one entire course) that will dwell on screen and playwriting. And I’m ridiculously excited. Like, way more excited than I should be. I feel silly.

Writing a screenplay is a fascinating undertaking. Very different from writing fiction. Formatting is much more important, using correct terminology is a thing, and there seem to be a lot of opinions floating around on how much detail or instruction should be included apart from the basic dialogue.

After chatting with a few people in my creative writing class discussion board, I’ve realized I’m kind of lucky that The Husband does film work… I get to have him look over my writing and he can tell me very quickly if he understands what I’m trying to portray or he can help me find the right verbiage to describe a particular shot. He’s the best.

It should be obvious, but pushing the limits of your comfort zone always helps you grow and improve. Screenwriting is, of course, the thing I’m doing right now to push my own limits, and it’s proving to be challenging and fun, all at the same time!

And who knows, maybe one of these days I’ll coerce The Husband into actually producing one of my little practice screenplays. Wouldn’t that be fun?


Until next time!

Love, light, and heaps of kindness,

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Taking Classes

Hello beautiful dreamer!

Welcome back! It’s a beautiful Friday, and as always, I’m staying super busy. Between blogging, fun side jobs, keeping up with the house, trying to ride my horse whenever it’s not raining, and now keeping a very active baby from eating shoes or climbing shelves, it’s been a bit chaotic lately! But on top of all of those things, last week I started my second college course through Southern New Hampshire University.

My first class was an Intro to Literature course and it was a really good one! I had the best professor who was extremely helpful and gave me every opportunity to succeed. I could not have asked for a better introduction to this school, quite honestly. It was fun getting to read and analyze and write again and I certainly learned a lot.

This time around, I’m taking my first Creative Writing class and so far, I’m enjoying it. It’s a change of pace for me to have more open-ended assignments, but it’s also pushing my comfort zone a little. Which is a good thing, since that’s the whole reason I’m getting this degree, right?

When I first wanted to go back to school, I was a little worried that taking my writing habit from a hobby to something full time like this would take the fun out of it. But so far, it has actually been a treat! Getting feedback and connecting with other people in the same field is very encouraging.

There are six more weeks left in this course and then I’ll have another eight-week literature course before there’s a short break between the summer and the fall segments. It’ll be a lot of work, but hopefully, the excitement I’ve got at the moment sticks around a lot longer.

At any rate, I’m staying busy, and it’s a lot of fun, if quite exhausting. But between work projects and school, I do think my writing will start improving, which I’m very happy about!


Until next time,

Love, light, and kindness!

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5 ways to cope with stress

This post is up later than I had planned because I wrote it and got it ready to go and then promptly forgot to actually post it. Whoops.

Hello wonderful readers!

I hope everyone is still managing to stay safe and healthy through the pandemic – it’s definitely not easy! I take precautions whenever I have to go get groceries, and I hate wearing masks because hello! claustrophobia! But I keep reminding myself that this will only be temporary. One day, hopefully not too long from now, we won’t have to worry so much about being around other humans again. Won’t that be nice? I just want an evening out or to be able to go to the movies. Very silly things, but I’m allowed to feel a little selfish sometimes, I think.

Even though my personal life has only changed a little bit, I still find that my anxiety levels have been higher. The main reason, of course, is the uncertainty and the unpredictability. Husband has been on furlough for just over a month now and even though we have been and are still financially stable, it’s the uncertainty that stresses me out – not knowing when that consistent paycheck will be back. As someone who likes to plan ahead, I’ve definitely been forced to sit back and just take it one day at a time.

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Everyone has different ways of dealing with their stress and coping with the chaos that is the world right now. And even if we take the pandemic situation completely off the table, we still all deal with these feelings at some time or other. I sometimes find it interesting to see how others handle anxiety because its usually slightly different than mine – even The Dear Husband has some anxieties as well and he deals with it in a vastly different way than I would. It’s kind of fascinating, or it would be if I wasn’t talking about STRESS. Hahaha…

Breathing is one of the things I do the most. (I mean, duh.) There are a million techniques to calm anxieties with the breath alone – like the 4-7-8 method, for example. Just simple deep breathing is helpful though, nothing special.

Grounding can also help pull my mental state out of whatever funk I was in before. My current technique is a 54321 idea, where you identify 5 things you can see, 4 things you can touch, 3 things you can hear, 2 things you can smell, and 1 thing you can taste. It can be very helpful to just refocus on the immediate surroundings and bring yourself back into the moment.

Singular Focus. If I find that I’m so stressed I can’t even focus on the above grounding technique though, I’ll focus instead on only one of my senses at a time, either by burning a candle or incense so that my sense of smell is activated or by listening to music as a way to bring my mind back whenever it wanders across the line into chaotic territory.

Writing things down is one technique that my therapist constantly reminds me to do as well. Free-writing or association isn’t easy for me as a very precise writer, but I’ve been taking the time to practice because sometimes it really does help to braindump, and having the option is great.

Acceptance can also be a way to overcome some of the really tough spots. Denying the negative feelings that come up doesn’t really help because it doesn’t deal with them, it merely shuts them up in a box and puts them away. Acknowledging that “yes, I am angry and that’s okay” can really provide a chance to FEEL that emotion and then maybe uncover a way to move past it. This is also something that is super hard for me because I don’t like negative feelings so I beat myself up over them and can never move past them. The handful of times that I’ve actually sat down and acknowledged that I was feeling guilty or sad and allowed myself the chance to just be with those emotions for a little bit, I’ve been able to process and work through them much better.

Obviously, none of these are perfect ways to overcome stress and anxiety, but they are definitely good ways to cope and start working through some of the issues. With all the chaos in the world right now, I think everyone is going through some added stress, and it is far too easy to let things turn into a vicious cycle which can then be difficult to break free from. But identifying the issue is sometimes half the battle. We can do this!


Love, light, and kindness,

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time management failings

Hi beautiful readers!

I hope everyone had a great Easter, despite the social distancing making a dent in a lot of people’s plans. We had a whole lot of storms over the weekend, but still managed to have a little bit of holiday fun and dressed up the Tiny Princess just because. She was so stinking adorable in her little Easter dress.

I’m not great at time management. Or prioritizing things that need to be done, come to think of it. I’ve had less than stellar health for several years and I tend to need more rest time throughout the day than someone else my age might need to. And then I’m working through some harmful perfectionist habits that make it hard to get as much done as I would like. And now I realize that there is a lot to unpack in this paragraph already, but today is not that day.

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It was slightly easier to manage my time when I was working because there was less of it to deal with. The few hours in the morning and the few hours in the evening, and once you consider making food in those hours, they dwindle down even further. I think I got a fair amount of stuff done in the little bit of time I had, but it never ever felt like enough.

And then I quit my job to stay at home and suddenly I had all the hours of the day to play with. Theoretically, of course, because baby. Before she was born, I usually set timers for myself. If I cleaned in the living room for 20 minutes, I got a rest break, or I would write for 15 minutes, or whatever. Timers are no longer as effective a strategy though because there is no telling when I’ll have to drop everything and do something for her.

Now, I try to get one chore done during each of her naps. Or I fold the laundry while we play on the floor. And I’m starting to teach her about picking up toys so that the house doesn’t get overrun. It’s a different sort of challenge.

If you google time management there will be a billion things that pop up. Everyone has a different way that they organize their day and prioritize their to-do lists. And nobody’s way is wrong. My strategies look totally different right now during quarantine because The Husband is home and that changes a lot of things around. (basically, my strategies flew out the window. help.)

This lovely post from Blessed Simplicity outlines six tips for time management as a stay at home mom and I’m doing my best to implement the ideas she lays out. We’re still in the middle of setting a good schedule for the Tiny Princess so of course that takes precedence over everything else right now, but I’m looking forward to having a little more stability and order in all of our lives once that is established. The other tips in the post are also things I’ve been trying to do. Sometimes they happen, sometimes they don’t. I mentioned last week that I do try to wake up earlier so I can get a headstart (aka wake up) before she does. That’s probably the most consistent thing I do, and even that’s not all that consistent. Yesterday I got up at 6:30. Today it was 7:30. Ah well.

Maybe one of these days I’ll have more strategies that I can write about, but all I’m here to say today is that time management is HARD, especially for creative folks. And it’s okay not to be perfect with how you manage or break up your day. If you did anything at all, you’ve succeeded. And that’s that.

Maybe one of these days I’ll make some more coherent blog posts, but today is also not that day! Until that day arrives, enjoy my ramblings because I have a feeling this is what quarantine has done to my brain!


Love, light, kindness, AND happiness today and all the days!

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March 2020 – A Closer Look

Hello beautiful readers!

March was a full blown adventure, wasn’t it? I feel like we started out strong and then slowly devolved into “the world is ending.” So that’s great. I wasn’t sure how to write this post, exactly, but then decided that I would just focus inward a little. We’re always going to remember the spring of 2020 as the time of the world pandemic, so why not take a look at some other things.

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What happened in March?

Here on Elemental Dreamer…

This was my worst month so far, blog post wise – including this one, I posted four times. Last Friday was my quarterly post, checking in on some of those ideas I was hoping to push for in 2020. Before that, I posted a little update letter to try and find some hope in the chaos of current events. And at the very beginning of the month I had a post about how I handle being interested in everything all the time.

In the Books…

Definitely my worst month to date. In the spirit of honesty, I’ve been super anxious and when I’m super anxious I read fanfiction and trashy romance novels – just a coping mechanism, I guess. I pulled out A Wrinkle in Time yesterday to make a point after we watched the latest awful movie rendition and now that it’s sitting out, I may read it. Who knows.

On the Screen…

We finally finished watching How I Met Your Mother. Since I’d already done it once, I forced Juan to make it through that horrendous final season just to reach the end.

I started watching The Voice on Hulu, and I’m enjoying this season! For some reason I love judging people on TV – a guilty pleasure maybe? I don’t know.

We watched the new live-action Dumbo, the 2018 version of A Wrinkle in Time, and a whole lot of kids cartoons.

Writing Things Down…

Sadly, I did not do any fiction writing this month. I’m really looking forward to doing a little bit in April if I get the chance. But I have been able to do some essay writing for a job and of course, journals and short essays for school!

Other Hobbies…

After half the month off, in the last week and a half, I’ve been able to get back to riding and it’s been great fun, just like always.

I’ve still been baking and cooking and not doing too bad a job! Everything gets eaten, so we’re enjoying it I guess! Last night I did cinnamon rolls and other than being a teensy bit overbaked, they were scrumptious! I need another one now….

Home and Family…

Well… as of last week, The Husband is on leave from work and we are social distancing/self isolating as best we can. That’s fun. It’s not like we ever really went out and did anything, but now the only thing we do is go to my parent’s property or out to the trails to walk. I think we’ve both been adjusting to being around each other 24/7, although the Tiny Princess doesn’t care, she’s just happy to have both of us home.

Overall, things are going well, just trying to keep our heads down until things improve around the world, and keep our positivity up. If you need something to watch, we’ve been watching Jimmy Fallon – he’s doing at-home versions of his talk show and it is weirdly inspiring and makes us smile.


Love, light, and kindness,

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Finding A Moment of Hope

Dear beautiful readers,

Life has an interesting way of keeping us on our toes, doesn’t it? It feels like I blinked and suddenly two weeks were gone without a single blog post finished. I’m a little sad about that because I was doing really really well with my planned schedule. But it’s okay. Honestly, the time change hit me kind of hard and then it’s been a struggle to get out of bed without waking up the little one, and now I’m just out of the habit. Ah well.

My last post was on the 3rd, about how I’ve always been interested in anything and everything, but how it’s also changed for me in recent years. The weekend after I published that, we went on a little family road trip to Oklahoma for a film festival. I think we all learned something at that event (well, except for Adaline, who maybe learned that she doesn’t like long car rides? I don’t know) and it was really exciting to have things work out so we could go! Our first family road trip in the books!

We all know that in the last few weeks, everything has slowly started shutting down around the States due to COVID-19. Nothing reminds you of how little you actually get out like preparing to self-isolate but then realizing that you already never do anything. Other than driving to my mom’s to feed the horses, we’re now staying home for the time being. Even though I don’t really leave the house that often anyways, not being able to do so is more annoying than I thought. Let’s just say we’re going to be taking a lot of walks!

Speaking of… I’ll have to post an update on my horse blog yet, but I’m slowly making some progress in that area. The rain has kept me mostly grounded since I’m not about to try and ride in knee-deep mud and get me or the horse or both of us hurt. I finally got on yesterday and did a slow ride, which was fantastic! In the meantime, I have been able to start working with her vet on a good plan to get her in the best shape to be able to trail/endurance ride this year! You know, if there are any events left scheduled after this virus calms itself down (hopefully soon).

I haven’t really announced it very openly, but I started working on my bachelor’s degree a couple of weeks ago! I’m getting my Bachelor’s in English and Creative Writing through Southern New Hampshire University. The courses are only 8 weeks long and completely online, which works out really well for my schedule. So far I’m enjoying my first literature class and I’m excited to see where this all takes me!

Our little baby girl turned 6 months old two weeks ago and I would be lying if I said I didn’t need a good cry that day. She is getting so big and starting to sit up and move on her own. As much as I adore watching her figure out the world, I’m also frantically trying to rein in these amazing, precious moments as she grows up before my eyes.

It’s been a little rough on me mentally lately, partly because of the world’s situation right now. My therapist’s office is closed for in-person sessions until things blow over, and I’m still on the fence about the video sessions they’re working on offering. We’ll see. I didn’t realize how much I looked forward to my weekly session, lol! I’m also hoping that I can slowly start getting my morning hours back, which should allow me to get back to my regular blogging schedule and have more time for myself.

I love this space and I love all my readers! Everyone stay safe, don’t hoard anything stupid and enjoy whatever peace can be found in this crazy time. I’ll try to see you on Friday!

With all the love, light, and kindness I can muster,

-Katharine Marie

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A Closer Look – February 2020

Hello beautiful dreamers!

I can’t believe that tomorrow is the last day of February. And if it wasn’t a leap year, today would actually be the last day. Yikes. But that’s not important right now. The main thing is that I am so confused as to how we got here. I hadn’t bothered pulling up this post until a few days ago – to give some perspective, I got an email a while back about some paperwork that needed to be submitted by the 29th of February. And I haven’t been procrastinating, exactly, just honestly believing that I had plenty of time. And then on Tuesday I get another email saying I have four days left to complete my paperwork. I think I died a little on the inside. I mean, I’m ready for spring, but I’m NOT ready for March to be here already.

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So… what did we get up to in the incredibly short month of February?

Here on Elemental Dreamer…

Well, we kicked off the month with this blog’s 100th post!! Which just so happened to be a ramble about how I’m attempting to continue reading more. Then we had a heart to heart about how rough it can be as a mom sometimes. I opened up a little with thirteen weird confessions that people really didn’t know about me and compared the differences between video content and the written word. Then we finished off with an update on how I’m feeling a month after leaving my job, and I offered a closer look at my personal morning routine.

All together, I had 7 blog posts in February, and 14 as the running total for 2020.

In the Books…

Last month I did better with my reading than I had in a very long while, but that all changed once I was no longer working and I’m still figuring out how to fit it in consistently. As such, I didn’t really finish anything in it’s entirety during the month of February, but I did read!

Firstly, this month I had my best streak with reading a passage of Scripture on a regular basis. Apart from a few random days here and there (weekends mostly) I sat down and read a few chapters almost every morning.

I read portions of a book on natural remedies for kids to help me get a little prepared to start my own apothecary! Not entirely kidding – I’m excited to buy some herbs and create some really cool stuff in my kitchen.

I also read part of Gentle Birth, Gentle Mothering, a book I actually picked up way back in the early stages of my pregnancy. I don’t necessarily subscribe to all the parenting tips in it, but I consistently fall back on the ideas presented when I doubt myself as a mother.

On the Screen…

This month I was able to configure the budget and The Husband got the larger tv that he’s been wanting. That was exciting! And then I had to ask him what all we watched this month because even with the larger screen my brain still didn’t remember what it showed.

I have a tiny kid in the house, so we watch a lot of cartoons. I LOVE Disney Plus because I can put on the classic princess movies and we can dance around to all the songs. It’s awesome. She also loves the theme songs to several other cartoons like DuckTales and My Little Pony. She could care less about the actual show, but she loves theme songs!

Speaking of Disney Plus, we finally watched the live action Lion King!! It was better than I was expecting and yes, I did cry all over again. Sniff sniff.

Since the Princess was so super tiny, we didn’t get to go see Zombieland: Double Tap in the theater like we hoped/planned, so we rented it this month and got a lot of laughs out of it! Still don’t know why I enjoyed it that much, but it was really funny.

Writing Things Down…

I think I was really hoping to be much further along on rewriting my book project than I am right now, but it’s okay. Other things took precedence this month and I’ve accepted that. I’m kind of thinking that regardless of how March goes, I’m going to use Camp Nanowrimo in April to give myself a bit of a goal and see if that helps.

I’ve also been journaling a LOT more, so I’m counting that as a win, and I only missed one post on my blogging schedule, which happened the week that we were all sick so I’m not upset about that! Plus, I got my first side gig so I’ve been learning the ins and outs of different styles of writing and enjoying that!

Other Hobbies

I’ve actually been able to ride and I’m so happy! Ideally I want to get out to the farm to ride my horse three-ish times a week and it’s been a little hit or miss because of the rain, but I’ve had a lot of fun getting back to my all-time favorite hobby.

The Tiny Princess seems to like when I play the piano so I’ve done a bit more this past month. I’ve been working on a piano version of a Coldplay song and I’m starting to play around with one from Metallica.

The other week I got a little restless at home, but couldn’t come up with any kind of errands to go run, so I started baking. And guess whose house has had either cookies or something other sort of baked good around since then. It’s mine….. whoops.

Home and Family

Tiny Princess update! She rolls from her back to her tummy all. the. time. But still won’t roll from her tummy to her back, although the last few days we’ve gotten a lot closer! She is extremely busy and can be very demanding. She loves to sit up, especially if we put her in the corner of the couch so she can practice doing it on her own. I feel like she’s going to be quite independent quite quickly. Sad day. She LOVES it when daddy gets home from work and she likes going out for walks on nice days. She’s about to be six months old in a week or so and I don’t know if I can handle that…

We all ended up getting sick during February – baby’s first cold! – and I’ve definitely struggled with keeping things in order around the house, but The Husband is always very quick to remind me that being a mom is a full time job (see above where I said she is extremely busy) so I’ve gotten better about being a little flexible.

2020 Intentions

In February I really focused on my spiritual self and actually have a nice little morning routine that includes that aspect. I cooked several different meals that I hadn’t tried before and they turned out pretty great! We got a little headstart going on our house savings. And I got accepted to the college I wanted!!


Love, light, and kindness!

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