Life in 2020

an attempt to read more

hi folks,

First off, this is my 100th post on Elemental Dreamer! I’m so excited that we made it this far! Since I started this particular blog in September of 2018, I have not missed posting for a single month. I have to say that this is my favorite space of all the ones I’ve posted on in my history of blogging and I’m so happy you all are along for the ride. It can only get better, right??

So last week, in my January recap, I went over the books I had read during the month. And, actually, I’m quite proud of myself because it has been a challenge in the last few years to really find the time to read more. I have a massive collection of books but I really don’t read like I want to. i think that’s just about everyone’s complaint, isn’t it?

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Photo by Ed Robertson on Unsplash

Part of what happened, is that I committed to reading on my breaks at work. Since I was pumping, I couldn’t leave or do just anything on my lunch. I actually had to sit down and stay put, so I read. And there are a fair amount of words you can read on a thirty minute break twice a day! But already, in the week and a half that I’ve been staying home, it’s become a lot harder to read like I was. I’ve managed to keep up with my writing, but that’s hard too!

So I’m working on a plan to make the reading a priority in my day to day life now that it looks so different.

The main thing I can think of is that I could read instead of mindlessly watching tv in the evenings. The Husband and I spend some time together once The Princess is in bed, but he also works on his film editing and sometimes I’m trying to scramble and get the last few things done around the house, even though I know I need to take that time to relax.

So I present this question to you all – how do you fit reading into your daily life, if you do at all? 

I love how much more creative my mind is when I read on a regular basis, so it’s something I definitely want to spend more time on.


Love, light, and much kindness. Happy 100 posts, Elemental Dreamers!

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A Closer Look – January 2020

Hi wonderful dreamers!

When I made my objectives for 2020, I mentioned a little about how I’m not doing very specific goals this year, but rather working towards certain priorities and intentions, if that makes sense. So, in light of that, I decided not to do monthly goals either. Firstly, because I’m terrible at updating them every month, and secondly, I wanted to do exactly what I’m here to do today. And that is, post an update about January – not necessarily what goals I did or didn’t do, per-se, but just… what happened, I guess?

So. January has felt very long and very short all at the same time. The Husband and I had decided that I would be staying at home with the Tiny Princess for at least a while, and last Friday, the 24th, was my last day at my full time job. So I spent most of January looking ahead to that change, and then this past week has been a lot of figuring out what that change actually looks like. But I’m loving it so far!

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Photo by Jeff Siepman on Unsplash

Here on Elemental Dreamer…

On this blog, we had a variety of content. I talked about the things I’m striving for in 2020 and I rambled about my emotions surrounding quitting my job to be a stay at home mom. I offered a few motivational journal prompts for those rougher days, and then you guys all got to meet me all over again in my updated introduction! I put out a poll asking what kind of blogging content you all prefer – it’s still open if you haven’t voted yet! – and I’m working on using those results appropriately. And then last week, I asked what you would wish for your life to look like in ten years, and offered my own dreams! And now we’re here!

In the Books…

So… surprisingly, I didn’t do half bad on the reading front. I read four books on my Kindle, and started another one that I don’t think I’ll be finishing because the writing is just grating to me.

Country Heaven, by Ava MilesActually a pretty great romance novel, only a little cheesy, and the plot was actually really good!

A Deadly Delivery: A Psychic Cafe Mystery, by April FernsbyIf you couldn’t guess, it’s a mystery story and the main character is a psychic. This one was just okay, not fabulous, but it did keep me entertained the whole way through. Honestly, the psychic aspect of the main character wasn’t that well written, even though she was great otherwise!

Cappucinos, Cupcakes, and a Corpse, by Harper LinYeah, I read several crime novels this month. This one was better than the previous one – no psychics – although parts of it did seem kind of far fetched. I’m just confused – do random civilians go around solving murders all the time, or just in books?

Casino Girl, by Leslie WolfeOkay, fair warning, this is the second book in a series, but I didn’t realize that when I downloaded it and I still very much enjoyed it! Another crime novel, but this time the main character is actually a detective, so much more believable. There were certain aspects that didn’t quite make sense, probably because I didn’t read the first one yet (I’m going to!) but regardless, I was very invested in this story from beginning to end. This is the one I highly recommend out of all the crime novels I read this month!

On the Screen…

I’m woefully behind on the new movies right now – we missed the entire holiday theater selection, but I heard there were some fantastic movies out there! What I did watch, however…

Once Upon A Time… In Hollywood was fantastic. Very, very different, though pretty much normal for a Quentin Tarantino movie, and we actually talked about it the next few days.

I’m still loving the Disney Plus content – makes it super easy to pop a movie on for the Tiny Princess if we need to, plus we got to watch the new live action Aladdin all over again!

I’m currently binge/re-watching Grace and Frankie on Netflix so I can watch the new season, Husband and I are working through How I Met Your Mother (a re-watch for me, new laughs for him) and Grey’s Anatomy is back on!

My Own Words…

I didn’t get as much written as I originally wanted to, but I’ve still made progress. I opened my current book project to start editing, and then decided two pages in that it needed a whole rewrite. So that’s what happening there. Beyond that, it’s just been blog posts for you all!

All Other Hobbies…

By the time this post goes up, I’ll have made my first trek out to the farm to ride my horse! If you didn’t already know, you can read about that under that tab up there that says horses. I’m excited to be riding again, even if its miserably cold and wet right now.

Home and Family…

The Tiny Princess CAN roll over now, she just mostly chooses not to. She learned to growl this past month, and also do that shrill scream that annoys me to no end. But besides some really rough teething moments, she’s been doing really well. We even had one incident where she slept the entire night. Hasn’t happened since then, but it gives me hope!

This past week I helped Husband with one of his video projects by providing some voice overs – new territory for me, but I kind of had fun! I even think I would do more of it for him in the future if he needs it. And I just remembered that he reads this… whoops.

Being home now also means I’ve started to really tackle some of the bigger house cleaning, and I love having a more organized space!

2020 Intentions…

The biggest step I made on my ideas for the year was applying to colleges, and even picking one in particular that I really liked! I’m still wading through paperwork, but hopefully that goes through and I can get my acceptance this next month!


Well, that went on ridiculously longer than I anticipated, but hey, it was kind of fun, right?

What did you do in January?

 

Love, light, and kindness for all,

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Posted by Katharine Espinosa in Books & Writing, General, Life in 2020, Life of a Writer, Lifestyle, Setting Goals, 0 comments

10 Years

Hello beautiful dreamers!

I talk a lot about goals and looking forward and trying to focus on the present and all sorts of stuff like that. Usually I try not to look way too far into the future since it kind of stresses me out, but today I’m breaking my own rule because I want to dream a little.

Today I’m playing a little game I like to call: What will my life look like in 10 years?

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I’m really not trying to plan out my life goals for the next ten years. This is just an idea if I pictured what could be possible. I know better than anyone that things don’t go according to plan, but hey, a girl can dream a little, right?

In Ten Years…

We will have a ten year old daughter (sounds crazy now!) and another child as well.

We will have that lovely little place, just a little ways outside of town that’s quiet and convenient and perfect.

I’ll have two reliable riding horses that I can jump, event, or endurance race with.

I’ll be able to work at home doing the writing and editing jobs that I love.

I will finally have my anxiety and depression consistently managed – mentally stability for the win!

I’ll actually have a completed college degree!

The financial security and independence we’re working towards right now will actually be a wonderful reality.

I will be enjoying homeschooling those previously mentioned children and having great adventures doing so.

I hope I’ll still be blogging, if the world hasn’t changed too drastically by that point. Maybe I’ll even still be at this same web address!

And finally, I will have some real finished projects – books, artwork, whatever. Just less half-finished or barely started projects laying around. Ha!


Ten years is a long time, when you think about it. Ten years ago, I had no idea what was in store for me and I had very little idea what I wanted to do with my life. It was a rough journey at times to get to where I am today but my heart is more full than I ever thought possible. Ten years from now, I can only imagine it being even more wonderful.

What do you wish for your life in ten years?


Love, light, and a multitude of kindness,

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Change is Coming

Hi there, wonderful dreaming folks!

Just so you all know, I’ve started this blog post about four different times. Two of those times were entirely different topics. Let’s just say I’ve had a bit of writers block this week. So a ramble about the traffic jam inside my head was warranted, I think.

Anywho. I’ve been looking ahead a lot now that I’m two weeks away from leaving my full time job. It’s brought up a variety of different emotions, some that really surprised me.

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For the most part, I’m honestly really excited. Ever since I came back to work after maternity leave, I’ve found it really hard to leave the baby in the mornings. My mom is loving all the time with her, but it’s still hard for me to come home at night and have to learn about what new thing she did that day instead of getting to experience it firsthand.

I’m also feeling a little nervous because I’m giving up my own reliable income. I trust The Husband to provide and take care of us, but regardless, it feels a little like giving up a piece of my independence. And yet on the other hand, I’m so, so, SO happy for this opportunity because I’ll finally have the extra bit of freedom to figure out how to work for myself like I’ve been wanting to do.

Of course, it’s easy to think that I’ll have plenty of time to do whatever I want, that I’ll be able to keep the house as clean as I want to. All of that. And I know it’s not true because I’ll be keeping The Tiny Princess alive and parenting is tough, y’all. This new phase of life is going to come with its own set of challenges and I am so very aware of that fact.

But I’m still excited because I’ll actually have the time to pursue my horse hobby again. With the horses living on my parents land, I’ll be able to bring The Princess to see my mom for a couple hours while I ride. That will be fun too, of course.

Basically, I’m having a lot of emotions right now. The fact that I haven’t been sleeping that great doesn’t help because then I’m even more emotionally unstable. But I think we’ve gotten over this most recent sleep regression and things are evening out again. This is a big change for our little family, but it’s going to be a blessing too. I can feel it.


What big change are you starting this decade with?

Love, light, and kindness,

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Objectives for 2020

Hi, wonderful dreamers!

We made it to 2020! This new year, with it’s metaphorical connection to perfect vision, seems so fresh with possibilities and opportunities. I’m staying hopeful that those ideals come to fruition – positivity can do a load of good too, I’m just saying.

As I mentioned last week in my reflections on 2019, I’m not really making a lot of goals. Instead I’m focusing more on some open-ended intentions and prioritizing three main ideas, which is what I want to explore a little today.

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Photo by Carolyn V on Unsplash

So, jumping right in, here are my top 3 priorities for this beautiful New Year!

1. My Home Life/Immediate Circle.

This one really falls in line with the fact that I’ll no longer be working full time at the end of January and will instead of staying home with our adorable little princess. I want to really work on not just keeping the house cleaner and more organized, but also more comfortable, more conducive to inviting friends over, etc.

Really this whole idea is about keeping my focus on the things closest to home – my marriage, my daughter, immediate family and a few close friends. 2019 was a year of working on my mental health in a quieter, personal way. In 2020 I want to work on bringing the people I love closer so that we can all support each other.

2. Building Up a Home Business.

I have mentioned this idea many many times on this blog, but in reality, it’s been very difficult to try and work on a side business when I’m working full time and trying to be a mom. There’s just not enough hours in the day. But this year is already setting itself up to give me the opportunity to really spread my wings and find my own way. It will be an adventure and I am so excited to see where the road takes me!

3. My Equestrian Hobby.

We all know that I have a million hobbies and never enough time to get to all of them. That’s why I’ve decided that 2020 is going to be the year I finally get back to my horses. I’m planning to post more about those plans elsewhere, but there are several reasons for making this a priority. My long-time riding horse is getting a bit older now and I don’t want to waste the years I have left with her. I need to start exercising a bit again and riding has always been my preferred way of getting back in shape. Plus the fresh air and it being my favorite hobby ever, of course!

Everything Else

Of course, I made a secondary list of ideas/things I would like to get around to this year. Not goals exactly, but more like directions to aim for, I guess.

  • Spend less time on my phone and more time reading/crafting/whatever.
  • Build on a daily spiritual practice.
  • Get started on some of my needed dental work.
  • Cook a wider variety of foods – experiment!
  • Work towards buying a house in the next year or two.
  • Blog consistently.
  • Finish the final edit of Donovan’s Quest.
  • Put together a gaming group?
  • Attend a Renaissance Fair.
  • Attend at least one film festival.
  • Take a regular vacation.
  • Go back to school??!?

I’m not going to put up any monthly lists this year. Instead, I plan to keep it to quarterly reviews so that I can focus on other quality content.


Blogging – Plans for Elemental Dreamer

As you can probably see, I’ve made some little tweaks and changes to the site’s layout and I’m working on making all the graphics and photos more consistent throughout. You can check out the new Projects page and I’ve linked to my equestrian blog as well.

As far as actual content goes, I put out a social media post asking about what those who read my blog want to hear about, so go comment there or here if you have some suggestions! I’m also setting up a couple of series that should start going up in February, and of course, I’ll still be doing my little rambling posts, the mental health stuff, and probably some short works of fiction will make their appearance as well.

I’ve always known that I’m no good at focusing my blog on one specific niche, but I’m planning to experiment a little this year and hopefully figure out the best way to make things more cohesive in the future. So I guess we’ll see what happens!


Happy New Year, everyone!

Love, light, and kindness,

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