Parenting

Friday’s Thoughts

Hello beautiful humans!

I should probably post more often again. It would help the things that I DO post to make more sense. Or at least it would help me with the problem I’m currently having where I sit down to write a post and then I feel the need to recap everything that has happened in the 2-3 weeks since my previous post, except that I really don’t feel like doing that because I could create a whole post about those happenings alone. SO instead, we’re gonna do two things. I’m gonna tell you a couple of random things about how my life is currently going (no context though) and then I’ve got a little store of thoughts in my head from therapy and just random internet searches that I wanna share. Here goes! Continue reading →

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October At Last

Hello, beautiful darlings,
You have no idea how happy I am that its October. And that is for quite a few reasons.

First off, I just love October. It might be my favorite month of the year (not 100% sure, but pretty close) and I always look forward to it. It’s funny because first, I wanted our wedding to be in October. That didn’t work out, so then I wanted our baby to be born in October. That didn’t happen either, so now I’m just settled into having October as my month. Which is actually quite nice, now that I’m thinking about it. I don’t have to share it with anyone, I can enjoy the weather and the autumn joy without any expectations. Things always turn out just right, don’t they? Continue reading →

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Babies and Sleep

Hi lovely dreamers!

Next week, my sweet baby girl turns 10 months old. I’m still not sure where the time went, but it’s going way too fast and I don’t like it. Ah well.

Before she was born, I had a lot of parenting goals, and I was really banking on instilling good sleep habits from the beginning. Easier said than done though, considering that the sleep deprivation was real and tiny babies are too cute not to be held all the time.

I read multiple books and scoured so many websites about babies and their sleep habits, and quite honestly, I got way too caught up in the various steps I should be taking to ensure the happy sleeping baby that I was wanting.

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She slept really well for the first three months and then started waking up sporadically throughout the night. Since then it’s been anyone’s guess how well she’ll sleep during the night. We’ve had some stretches of co-sleeping, issues with what seemed to be night terrors (not sure though?), and some short stretches of great nights where she only woke up once to eat. Right now we’re in the middle of what seems to be some kind of sleep regression where she’s up as many times a night as she was as a newborn. Thank heavens for coffee.

So yeah, this post is not about how to sleep train a baby or some kind of success story because as much as my goal is to have a baby that sleeps through the night, my real goal is to have a happy, healthy baby. That is the most important thing. Even if I miss my sleep something terrible. But either way, I wanted to write a little about the process so far.

Adaline has become very skilled in putting herself to sleep. She knows when nap time is, she might fuss because she doesn’t want to go to sleep, but 9 times out of 10, once I turn off the light and leave the room, I don’t hear another sound for at least an hour or two. The same goes for bedtime at night – she’s usually a perfect little angel. I love not having to spend a huge chunk of time trying to put her to sleep every day. We worked hard at those skills, using a very controlled version of Ferber sleep training. Not everyone agrees with letting babies cry on their own, and neither I nor The Husband could deal with the wailing and screaming. By the time we started working on this, I was very familiar with her different cries and could tell when she was actually upset and when she was just annoyed or fussing because she was tired. It probably took about two weeks total for her to really grasp the concept, but once she did we’ve never looked back. If she does have trouble putting herself to sleep its usually because I kept her up too long or something else that threw her routine off.

Nights like the last few where she’s up at all hours of the night make me seriously consider extinction methods of sleep training, but honestly, I would end up crying whether I was in the room with her or not, so I would much rather try to help her figure it out than just leave her be. She still strongly prefers to nurse back to sleep at night, so I’ve been attempting to wean her off of that since I know she is capable of going without the night feedings at this point. But when its 3am and you’re falling asleep in the rocking chair, its so easy to just do whatever works in the moment. Hahahh sleep deprivation. Yeah, anyways, we’re working on that. I’m preparing myself mentally to actually try and work with her during these night wakings next week, so we’ll see how it goes.

I’ve found myself wishing sometimes that people would be less judgmental about things like how babies sleep. Different things work differently for everyone. I really thought we would have it figured out by now too, but right now she still needs me during the night so that’s the way it is. I fall back on attachment parenting styles when I need the support and it makes me feel like a much better mom. I know I’m doing what’s right by my own child and regardless of what others might think about my parenting, she is happy, healthy, developing beautifully, and could not be more perfect.

That’s as much as I can find the words for on a coffee-fueled brain this week. I hope every other mom finds the support they need to feel like they are crushing it at this parenting gig!


Love, light, and kindness,

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some thoughts.

Hello lovely readers,

I hope this finds you well and happy! Texas is progressively moving to open back up from all the COVID-19 restrictions and as I mentioned in my Instagram post yesterday, The Husband is back at work this week. I love being home with our baby girl, but we had both gotten used to having him around all the time and I think we both miss him quite a bit right now. I’m feeling a lot of emotions about everything and it kind of sucks at times, but it’s the way things are right now and I’m just grateful that we’re still all healthy and stable.

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Photo by Tim Foster on Unsplash

I’m not writing today to share some insightful wisdom or anything like that, just to catch up and check in and help get my writing habit back on track. I started my second college course yesterday as well and this one is writing-centric, so I’m excited to see what I learn from it.

I’ve only been out to the farm to see my horse a handful of times. Mostly because I felt like I needed to spend as much time bonding with my little family during this stay-at-home phase as I could. Plus, the last time I went to go riding my horse spooked at her own poop, so we’re solidly in the spring crazies stage, which means riding can be hit or miss sometimes!

But staying home is so worth it too… Tiny Princess learned to pull herself up, has mostly figured out crawling, started eating finger foods, and even knows how to say mama and dada, although she’s very selective about when she chooses to say them.

There’s not much else to mention at the moment – I’m working on Friday’s post and then hopefully everything gets back on schedule, at least for a little while!

Love, virtual hugs, light, and kindness,

Katharine Marie

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routines at home

Hey there wonderful dreamers!

Today marks four weeks – basically a month since I left my full time job to stay home with the Tiny Princess. it’s been a huge blessing and a pretty big shift in our lives. but it’s been really really good, despite everything.

There’s a lot i could talk about on this subject, and I have shared some on social media, but today I wanted to talk about some of the things I’ve been doing to help schedule out my time at home so that I can feel the most productive and take care of both Adaline AND myself in the best way possible.

Note that I said the goal was to FEEL more productive, not necessarily BE more productive. This is an important note. Mental attitude is everything. I am awful at minimizing the things I do get done in favor of stressing over all the things I didn’t. My therapist and I have talked at length about this and it’s something I have a hard time with, but it’s slowly getting better. I’m learning to see each day as it’s own unit instead of comparing it to yesterday or last week or whatever.

Sometimes, when I look at the last few weeks, it seems like it’s just been one thing after the other. First I had to decompress a little from the stress of my previous routine. Then the teething switched into overdrive meaning I could hardly set the poor girl down for very long at one time. Then one by one we all got some variation of a cold and in the middle of that, it felt like nobody slept for at least a week – in reality it was probably about four or five days where she refused to sleep anywhere that wasn’t upright on my shoulder. So that was fun. The Husband and I are kind of almost recovered now and the Princess is feeling much better too.

At first, it felt like I was still playing catch-up with the house. Just could not get to everything in one day. Now, everything actually feels more or less in order and I can do little things throughout the day to keep the place clean and tidy. That in and of itself is a huge stress reliever for me – I’m not exactly a neat person, but chaos annoys me to no end.

Anyways, most days I’m able to get up by 6:30am and I have a pretty good morning routine going on – something that I’m going to explore in more depth next week! – that I can usually get done before the kid wakes up. That 1-2 hours in the morning is my sanity right there. Maybe some moms can do it, but I just can’t handle never ever being alone. The Husband leaves before 6 and she usually doesn’t get up until at least 7:30, usually later, and that window of time is MINE.

That morning routine, though, is probably the only consistent part of the day. Her naps are a little all over the place because I think we’re in some sort of transition period, and everything else is usually all up in the air. But that’s just the way life is right now, I suppose!

How is your life going right now? Hopefully a little less chaotic-feeling than mine!


Love, light, and loads of kindness!

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a new lifestyle

Hey fellow dreamers!

Today is Friday, my second Friday since I left my full time job. Two weeks that I’ve been a stay at home mom. Sometimes it feels like it’s been forever, but it really hasn’t been.

I never thought I would be doing this. Well, truthfully I had my doubts that I would have children at all, but once that was something I wanted, I really felt called to try and pursue work options I could do while staying home with the tiny human. Particularly as someone who wants to home-school down the road, it seemed natural to start from the beginning.

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I will say it’s definitely been an adjustment and not without it’s very, VERY hard moments. The teething, which had been kind of hit or miss, depending on the day, really hit us around the middle of last week and I’ll admit I had a few times where I missed being at work, or anywhere away from the screaming really. She still doesn’t have that ridiculous little tooth, but between the on-demand nursing, extra naps and cuddles, and the magic of chamomile, we’re surviving for right now.

I’m learning how to do a whole lot in 45 minutes while she sleeps. I honestly had no idea how much one could fit into that small space of time! I still feel like my house will never be as clean as I want it to be, but it is consistently more clean than it was before, so that’s something.

Another time I’ll talk more about how my schedules and planning tendencies go with this new change – something my therapist and I are still discussing and tweaking for my optimal mental health – but I can honestly say that working full time and being a SAHM are equally hard, it’s just in different ways.

Working full time was so SO hard for me because it felt like I never got anything done at home because from the time I got off to the time she went to bed, I wanted nothing more than to enjoy those precious moments. Then, when she did go to bed, the day really hit me and I no longer had any energy for the house chores or anything else I might have wanted to do. Emotionally I struggled a lot and the lack of sleep wore me down so much.

Being at home is… a little easier for me emotionally? I say that kind of in jest because we have had several of those days where I want the Husband to be home RIGHT NOW so I can just have a moment to myself. But I don’t miss the emotional roller coaster that being away from her was for me. My days often feel incredibly long and I’m not even quite sure what day of the month it is right now – I can keep up with the day of the week only because Husband goes to work. Sometimes it feels like I’m doing stuff all. day. long. and then in the evening it’s like my day was gone with nothing to show for it. So it’s different. Easier in some ways, harder in others.

I have so much compassion for new moms now because no matter which lifestyle you have, it’s going to be hard. That’s just what having a baby is like and everyone has to decide for themselves which path is going to work (ha ha)best for them and their family. Mom guilt is such a real thing and I know we all cry in the shower, or in the car, or wherever because we’re convinced we’re doing it all wrong. There is no right way to be a mom as long as you’re loving that baby with everything you have. That’s all that matters.

I said something about it in an Instagram post earlier this week – that success can change from day to day. It’s not a static definition. Not only does that mean that my definition will look different today than it did yesterday, but it means that my definition in general will look different from yours. The comparisons that often happen between different mothers is so unrealistic because we are all such different people.


For myself, I have zero concerns about choosing to stay at home with my beautiful daughter. Is it where I imagined myself to be at this point in my life? Not at all. But it is where I need to be right now and whether or not that changes in the future doesn’t really matter to me.


Love, light, and warm hugs, especially to all the other moms out there!

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Change is Coming

Hi there, wonderful dreaming folks!

Just so you all know, I’ve started this blog post about four different times. Two of those times were entirely different topics. Let’s just say I’ve had a bit of writers block this week. So a ramble about the traffic jam inside my head was warranted, I think.

Anywho. I’ve been looking ahead a lot now that I’m two weeks away from leaving my full time job. It’s brought up a variety of different emotions, some that really surprised me.

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For the most part, I’m honestly really excited. Ever since I came back to work after maternity leave, I’ve found it really hard to leave the baby in the mornings. My mom is loving all the time with her, but it’s still hard for me to come home at night and have to learn about what new thing she did that day instead of getting to experience it firsthand.

I’m also feeling a little nervous because I’m giving up my own reliable income. I trust The Husband to provide and take care of us, but regardless, it feels a little like giving up a piece of my independence. And yet on the other hand, I’m so, so, SO happy for this opportunity because I’ll finally have the extra bit of freedom to figure out how to work for myself like I’ve been wanting to do.

Of course, it’s easy to think that I’ll have plenty of time to do whatever I want, that I’ll be able to keep the house as clean as I want to. All of that. And I know it’s not true because I’ll be keeping The Tiny Princess alive and parenting is tough, y’all. This new phase of life is going to come with its own set of challenges and I am so very aware of that fact.

But I’m still excited because I’ll actually have the time to pursue my horse hobby again. With the horses living on my parents land, I’ll be able to bring The Princess to see my mom for a couple hours while I ride. That will be fun too, of course.

Basically, I’m having a lot of emotions right now. The fact that I haven’t been sleeping that great doesn’t help because then I’m even more emotionally unstable. But I think we’ve gotten over this most recent sleep regression and things are evening out again. This is a big change for our little family, but it’s going to be a blessing too. I can feel it.


What big change are you starting this decade with?

Love, light, and kindness,

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