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Welcome Again

Hello lovely humans,

Blogging has been kind of hit or miss over the last… six? months. I’m unsure of a lot of things, but one thing that I know right now is that I am definitely not the same person (at least not on the inside) that I was a few years ago. Even one-year-ago me was different. In light of that, and also because I just rewrote my online bio things, I wanted to share a little about myself. So here are 25 things to know about Katharine.

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Posted by katharine_marie in Life in 2021, 0 comments

Babies and Sleep

Hi lovely dreamers!

Next week, my sweet baby girl turns 10 months old. I’m still not sure where the time went, but it’s going way too fast and I don’t like it. Ah well.

Before she was born, I had a lot of parenting goals, and I was really banking on instilling good sleep habits from the beginning. Easier said than done though, considering that the sleep deprivation was real and tiny babies are too cute not to be held all the time.

I read multiple books and scoured so many websites about babies and their sleep habits, and quite honestly, I got way too caught up in the various steps I should be taking to ensure the happy sleeping baby that I was wanting.

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She slept really well for the first three months and then started waking up sporadically throughout the night. Since then it’s been anyone’s guess how well she’ll sleep during the night. We’ve had some stretches of co-sleeping, issues with what seemed to be night terrors (not sure though?), and some short stretches of great nights where she only woke up once to eat. Right now we’re in the middle of what seems to be some kind of sleep regression where she’s up as many times a night as she was as a newborn. Thank heavens for coffee.

So yeah, this post is not about how to sleep train a baby or some kind of success story because as much as my goal is to have a baby that sleeps through the night, my real goal is to have a happy, healthy baby. That is the most important thing. Even if I miss my sleep something terrible. But either way, I wanted to write a little about the process so far.

Adaline has become very skilled in putting herself to sleep. She knows when nap time is, she might fuss because she doesn’t want to go to sleep, but 9 times out of 10, once I turn off the light and leave the room, I don’t hear another sound for at least an hour or two. The same goes for bedtime at night – she’s usually a perfect little angel. I love not having to spend a huge chunk of time trying to put her to sleep every day. We worked hard at those skills, using a very controlled version of Ferber sleep training. Not everyone agrees with letting babies cry on their own, and neither I nor The Husband could deal with the wailing and screaming. By the time we started working on this, I was very familiar with her different cries and could tell when she was actually upset and when she was just annoyed or fussing because she was tired. It probably took about two weeks total for her to really grasp the concept, but once she did we’ve never looked back. If she does have trouble putting herself to sleep its usually because I kept her up too long or something else that threw her routine off.

Nights like the last few where she’s up at all hours of the night make me seriously consider extinction methods of sleep training, but honestly, I would end up crying whether I was in the room with her or not, so I would much rather try to help her figure it out than just leave her be. She still strongly prefers to nurse back to sleep at night, so I’ve been attempting to wean her off of that since I know she is capable of going without the night feedings at this point. But when its 3am and you’re falling asleep in the rocking chair, its so easy to just do whatever works in the moment. Hahahh sleep deprivation. Yeah, anyways, we’re working on that. I’m preparing myself mentally to actually try and work with her during these night wakings next week, so we’ll see how it goes.

I’ve found myself wishing sometimes that people would be less judgmental about things like how babies sleep. Different things work differently for everyone. I really thought we would have it figured out by now too, but right now she still needs me during the night so that’s the way it is. I fall back on attachment parenting styles when I need the support and it makes me feel like a much better mom. I know I’m doing what’s right by my own child and regardless of what others might think about my parenting, she is happy, healthy, developing beautifully, and could not be more perfect.

That’s as much as I can find the words for on a coffee-fueled brain this week. I hope every other mom finds the support they need to feel like they are crushing it at this parenting gig!


Love, light, and kindness,

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Posted by katharine_marie in Life in 2020, Parenting, 0 comments