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Balance at Home

Hello beautiful folks!
Another week is almost over, and August is nearly over too – can you believe it? I kind of can, but just because 2020 has seemed like the longest year EVER. Ugh.
I’ve been talking a lot this month about how mental health problems can affect everyday life and rambled on about a few ways that I deal with and handle those things. Balance is not something that comes easy to me – I get very hyper-focused and then can’t have trouble getting other things done properly. Its something I’ve had to work on, especially now being a stay-at-home mom because its impossible to hyper-focus on something when your child also needs something, and dinner is trying to burn on the stove. You know what I mean…

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routines at home

Hey there wonderful dreamers!

Today marks four weeks – basically a month since I left my full time job to stay home with the Tiny Princess. it’s been a huge blessing and a pretty big shift in our lives. but it’s been really really good, despite everything.

There’s a lot i could talk about on this subject, and I have shared some on social media, but today I wanted to talk about some of the things I’ve been doing to help schedule out my time at home so that I can feel the most productive and take care of both Adaline AND myself in the best way possible.

Note that I said the goal was to FEEL more productive, not necessarily BE more productive. This is an important note. Mental attitude is everything. I am awful at minimizing the things I do get done in favor of stressing over all the things I didn’t. My therapist and I have talked at length about this and it’s something I have a hard time with, but it’s slowly getting better. I’m learning to see each day as it’s own unit instead of comparing it to yesterday or last week or whatever.

Sometimes, when I look at the last few weeks, it seems like it’s just been one thing after the other. First I had to decompress a little from the stress of my previous routine. Then the teething switched into overdrive meaning I could hardly set the poor girl down for very long at one time. Then one by one we all got some variation of a cold and in the middle of that, it felt like nobody slept for at least a week – in reality it was probably about four or five days where she refused to sleep anywhere that wasn’t upright on my shoulder. So that was fun. The Husband and I are kind of almost recovered now and the Princess is feeling much better too.

At first, it felt like I was still playing catch-up with the house. Just could not get to everything in one day. Now, everything actually feels more or less in order and I can do little things throughout the day to keep the place clean and tidy. That in and of itself is a huge stress reliever for me – I’m not exactly a neat person, but chaos annoys me to no end.

Anyways, most days I’m able to get up by 6:30am and I have a pretty good morning routine going on – something that I’m going to explore in more depth next week! – that I can usually get done before the kid wakes up. That 1-2 hours in the morning is my sanity right there. Maybe some moms can do it, but I just can’t handle never ever being alone. The Husband leaves before 6 and she usually doesn’t get up until at least 7:30, usually later, and that window of time is MINE.

That morning routine, though, is probably the only consistent part of the day. Her naps are a little all over the place because I think we’re in some sort of transition period, and everything else is usually all up in the air. But that’s just the way life is right now, I suppose!

How is your life going right now? Hopefully a little less chaotic-feeling than mine!


Love, light, and loads of kindness!

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Mindful Monday: Moving

Hello beautiful wonderful people!

It’s time for another one of our Mindful Monday posts – a roundup of things I’m currently into, some current goals, and some mini updates on my personal life.

Third trimester emotions are really hitting me hard at this point. Nothing is going wrong but I’m feeling a lot of stress, pressure, and I’m just no longer sleeping well. At ALL. I’m just tired all the time and it makes me cranky a lot more than I would like to be. So emotionally, I’m a little messy but regular life things are going well, so that’s good!

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Since Last Time…

Since the last Mindful Monday post we’ve officially moved into a new place! It’s an adorable duplex right on the edge of town and we’re really happy with it. We’re still doing the last bit of moving and cleaning and it has been absolutely exhausting. Not only can I not do much of anything to actually help right now, but the upper 90s and triple digit heat made it extra hard on The Husband and the other guys we had helping us move. It was a little rough, but to be fair, we had most of the stuff moved within two days, so it’s getting done! I’ll be able to turn in my apartment keys in the next day or two and then it’s all unpacking and settling in!

Our wedding anniversary was yesterday and I wrote a whole post about it. We were busy with moving and being worn out to really celebrate, but we had a good day anyways. I’m still falling more and more in love with my handsome man every single day!

August is getting close to being half over and I’m so confused. Like… where is the time running off to…? I don’t understand. I’m hitting 35 weeks of pregnancy this week and we’re basically scrambling to have everything ready for our princess to make her appearance.

As a bit of a present for The Husband, I decided to try my hand at script writing… I already write everything else, so why not take this up too and then we’ll be an even better team – I’ll write/manage projects and he’ll direct/edit them! How fun would that be?!

Coming Up Next…
  • Unpack everything.
  • Baby shower! All the baby things, actually.
  • Keep surviving the August heat.
  • Enjoy this last month before baby A gets here.
What I’m Reading…

I’m actually on the search for a few new books to read – the insomnia is real right now and I’m burning through books on my Kindle SO fast! I’ve been brainstorming a mystery idea for one of The Husband’s scripts so I’m kind of on a thriller/mystery kick right now.

My other favorites are historical romances… they tend to be fairly easy reads, which is great for the times when I wake up at 1am and just need to do something other than lay there for two hours.  And fantasy. I’ll never turn down a good fantasy novel. Although I’m starting to branch out into some science fiction as well. Hmm.

What I’m Thinking About…

What issue has been preoccupying my thoughts?

Having reached the last stages of pregnancy I’m overanalyzing every little thing. I’m questioning how I feel at any given moment to make sure everything is still A-Okay. Preoccupied would be a gentle way to put it, if I’m being honest!

What do I really want to buy right now?

I’m shopping for rugs at the moment. The new place has concrete flooring and we need a large area rug for the living room as well as some small ones for other places. So rug shopping it is!


Now it’s your turn! How are things going in your life?? Let me know!

Sending you love and kindness!

Katharine Marie

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Manifest Those Dreams

Hello you wonderful readers!

I’ve written a few posts recently about the things that I wish were different about myself, the beautiful parts of my life, and then an alternative perspective on priorities. It’s been an interesting set of posts so far, and today I wanted to wrap it up a little by writing about the things I want in life. I want to work towards manifesting my dreams and making them a reality.

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Even though I have so much in my life that is amazing and beautiful right now, that doesn’t mean I’m not looking ahead to the future. After all, we’re getting ready to move in the next two months and we’re having a baby in three months, so it’s not like our life is going to stay the same for any stretch of time at all.

Some people differ on the subject, but I definitely believe in the idea that stating your dreams and truly believing in them is a strong way to make them actually happen. It’s not a matter of just saying “this is what I want” but rather of stating “this is a real thing that is going to happen in my future.” It frames the idea differently in your head.

So, with that little rant in mind, I’m going to lay out some of the dreams I have for my life.


I’m going to continue putting my entire heart and soul into my relationship so that we remain just as happy – or more so! – than we already are. This also means continuing to do the work needed to keep our home life as safe and stable as possible, particularly now that we’re starting our family!

I’m going to complete my bachelor’s degree, most likely in English, which will be a great addition to my resume, especially now that I’m starting to make my writing into a side business. This side business is going to become my main job in the near-ish future and we intend to seek out a consistent amount of work with filmmaking and writing so that we can spend more time with our family doing what we love.

Something I’ve always dreamt of and is slowly getting within reach is having a farm. And I fully intend for us to have our own place within the next couple of years – a place where I can keep my horses in my backyard. Where I can have a lovely garden that supplies most if not all of our vegetable needs. Where I can raise a cow and maybe a few sheep and a little flock of chickens. A safe haven for all the country things I’ve always wanted.

Speaking of which, once I am permitted to get back on a horse again, I am going to start riding regularly again (that was the plan for this year until I got pregnant!) and there are already a few endurance rides that I have my eye on for next year – it makes me WAY too excited just thinking about it!

I have several different ideas on how to handle my mental health issues that I intend to put into action at some point this year so that I can finally become a bit more consistent about… well… life in general, I guess!

We are going to have a beautiful little baby and we are going to love her so much it might just kill us both!


What dreams are you going to manifest today?

Next week we’re going to switch gears entirely and look at a bunch of different things, mostly to do with the life of a writer! Stay tuned!

Love and kindness,

Katharine Marie

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