Mindful Monday: Duality

Hello beautiful wonderful people!

It’s time for another one of our Mindful Monday posts – a roundup of things I’m currently into, some current goals, and some mini updates on my personal life.

Since the last time we chatted, I’ve done both a lot and practically nothing at all. My house is kind of a mess, but we’ve been doing more activities away from home. I’ve panicked because of how quickly our move is coming up and great progress has been made in prepping for the baby. So it’s’ been mostly good with a little craziness thrown into the mix. Which, now that I think about it, sounds like exactly what I like!


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Since Last Time…

The worst thing that’s happened so far has been me getting a lovely little sunburn. Ouch.

My parents wanted to do something for July 4th, so we headed up to Oklahoma for a day trip with my family. I was pleasantly surprised that I managed a couple hours of canoeing on the river without getting too exhausted! It was a lot of fun!

We just got back last night from a weekend in Dallas – kind of a getaway for both of our birthdays (even though his was back in April!) – and it was SO nice to spend two days together, not worrying about anything else. I spent too much money on books, we had maybe a bit too much fun at Medieval Times, and even won a few of our bets while spending half a day at the horse races.

Camp Nanowrimo though… honestly, I’m a little behind at the moment, although not ridiculously so. Having extra days off work and having plans out of town have made it difficult to catch up though. The next week and a half though, our calendar is a lot more open and I hope to keep it that way so that I can continue writing. At least when I do find the time to write, I can get my words in! The story is coming along well!

I am deep in the process of setting up baby registries right now… and it is a simple enough task that somehow makes me realize how much I don’t know or am not prepared for. Yikes. But hey, I can NOT get enough of the adorable baby stuff. So tiny!! Ssqueal!

The house hunting is still very much on – it’s been a real challenge finding something that is in a decent neighborhood while still allowing indoor cats. Our family of five is harder to house than I thought! And I’ve been journaling, but not quite every day. Also a challenge for some reason. Maybe the crazy schedule.

Coming Up Next…
  • Camp Nanowrimo continues!
  • Fort Worth Indie Film Festival is in two weeks – wish us luck!
  • Find that unicorn house to rent.
  • Really work on my daily self-employment routine (I may need to write about this).
  • Packing for that move we have to make next month!
What I’m Reading…

What blog posts caught my eye?

I really needed to read this blog post from Frugal Debt Free Life about small steps towards getting out of debt. Even though all the things on that list are things I already think about and (mostly) implement in my daily life, it was still a great reminder.

I’m starting to pack up stuff around the house and a big thing has been my closet, so this post from The Confused Millenial about capsule wardrobes was a nice read. Right now my wardrobe is very limited because of the baby bump, so just to see the huge amount of clothes that I’m not wearing is a little humbling. I may need to get rid of some stuff!

What book am I currently reading?

My darling husband got me a tablet for my birthday and the first book I downloaded to read was The Tethering, by Megan O’Russell. And so far I’m enjoying it – the writing is very strong and so far the plot is holding up. We’ll see what happens!

What I’m Thinking About…

What issue has been preoccupying my thoughts?

I’ve been thinking about how my cats are going to handle having a baby in the house – my younger kitty in particular. He’s practically a dog behavior-wise and he requires a lot of energy and attention – he is going to be extremely jealous and I worry a bit sometimes about how things are going to play out. (I’m not getting rid of him, it’s just a matter of what we have to do to make the household run smoothly!)

What’s coming up soon for my online platform?

I haven’t been as active online as I was planning to be so far, but slow and steady wins the race. This week specifically I’m working on posting something on social media once a day, no matter what that might be. From there, we’ll see!

What do I really want to buy right now?

I mentioned that The Best Husband Ever got me a tablet for reading and whatever business purposes I might need it for, and I am now obsessed with buying ALL the books. Whoops.

Now it’s your turn! How are things going in your life?? Let me know!

Sending you love and kindness!

Katharine Marie

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July 2019 Goals

Hello lovely folks!

Summer is definitely upon us. I just checked my phone and the forecast is a weird mix of super heavy thunderstorms and 100 degree days. It’s awesome. Although the rain is okay, there has been a lot of major flooding in Texas and Oklahoma so maybe now would be a good time to stop dumping water on our heads, okay? At least, that’s my point of view!


June seemed like a bit of everything thrown all together. The show I was planning to work on was cancelled sadly, although maybe for the best since I haven’t been feeling all that great again lately. Writing-wise though, it’s been super great!

I covered a lot more in my Quarter Two review post, so you can read that if you feel like it, and I updated my June goals post so you can see how I did on those!

So… what do we have planned for July?!

Goals for July 2019
  • Find and set up our new lease – moving in August!
  • Finish paying off the midwife.
  • Stay on budget as much as possible – moving and babies are expensive!
  • Keep working on my communication – this has been a big topic at home lately.
  • Earn X amount with my brand new freelance writing business!
  • 10 blog posts here on Elemental Dreamer.
  • Complete and win Camp Nanowrimo.
  • Read two books.
  • Play the piano several evenings during the week.
  • Write several cards that are long overdue to be sent.
  • Set up our baby registry.
  • Celebrate a birthday by going out of town for a weekend.
  • Attend the Fort Worth Indie Film Festival!
  • Spend the holiday weekend with my family.
  • Daily things like journaling, taking my vitamins and stretching.

The heat is really tough to deal with at 7 months pregnant so I’ll be spending time in the air conditioning as much as I can. Definitely looking forward to a great month though!

What do you have planned for July?

Love and kindness,

Katharine Marie


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Planning to Write

Hello beautiful darling readers!

So tomorrow is the first day of spring and I am so happy!! As much as I have aspects of winter that I really and truly love, the beginning of spring is the time of year when I can feel all my seasonal depression fade away for a while. And it is a wonderful feeling!


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I realized over the weekend that April is a whole lot closer than I thought it was. Whoops. And the thing about April is that’s when the first session of Camp NaNoWriMo starts.

As of this moment right now, I have no idea what I want to work on. I don’t know what my word count goal is going to be, what my genre might be, whether I want to work on a previously unfinished project or start something new, or even whether I might want to do a series of projects. Basically, I’m planning to participate, but beyond that I have nothing. Zilch.

That’s not encouraging at all. I have 12ish days to get at least the basics figured out.

What I would like to know…
  • A chosen project, no matter how bare boned it seems.
  • A starting point and a few helpful prompts to keep me going.
  • A word count goal that doesn’t seem overwhelming.
  • A small collection of photos, videos, and music that make me feel inspired and connected to said project.

And… yeah, that’s about it, really.

I’m considering finishing up a novel-length project that I’ve been working on for a few years now. There’s enough left to do on it that I would have a fairly reasonable amount of work set out for me every day.

If I go with that project, I already have a good outline that details where I need to add things, what needs to be finished, etc. I have the starting point and a nice long list of ideas, plans for the story, and character notes.

Again, assuming I pick up the novel, I’m thinking possibly of writing 30,000 words in April. That would put the entire project right at 60+ thousand words, which is not a bad place to be at with a first draft, in my opinion.

Everything else is just a matter of thought and research, I think. I just need to put some time in to make it all happen. Which should also be more than likely to happen in the next week sometime!

Anyone else planning to write in April?! 🙂

Love and happy spring-filled kindness!

Katharine Marie

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i let my mind wander

Hello my beautiful magical people! I know it’s been two whole weeks since my last post, but it just took me forever to settle into writing so much on a daily basis that I just couldn’t get anything finished. Whoops. Anyways, I *think* I’ve gotten into a bit of a better routine now, and I’m writing much easier, so I can start expecting more content with less of the struggle.

Writing Insanity

Firstly… NaNoWriMo! Yes, the famous challenge of 50,000-words-in-30-days. That one. I’ve participated for the last five or six years now and even do the Camp Nano version sometimes when they happen in April and July. I’m just a sucker for a good (and difficult!) challenge idea. Plus I’m terrible at finishing the first draft of anything, so it’s a good way to get at least most of the way there. This year I’m working on a post-apocalyptic story idea and it’s actually been really interesting. I like trying different genres because they get me out of my comfort zone and really make me think about setting and character development in a totally different way. So far, November hasn’t gone quite as well as I would like it to, but I’ve been getting more and more steady about writing on a regular basis. Maybe it helps that I have the ability to work on it while I’m on the clock (shhhh) so that it’s not something I’m trying to squish into my spare time. I’m still a lot more behind than I want to be, but like I mentioned earlier, it’s been hard to get back into the habit of writing this much on a daily basis. I’m getting much better though! I’ll try to start keeping you updated on social media over the weekend and throughout the rest of the month.


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Mental Health Notes

Next, I wanted to ramble just a bit about how my mental health has been since the last time I posted about it. And… it’s been a bit up and down. I’m trying to stay aware of where my mind is at during the day so that I can adjust my thoughts accordingly and I think it is helping. I try to check in with myself before I leave for work so that I can pack essential oils or herbal medications, and I’m starting to add at least a small amount of meditation somewhere into my day. Baby steps, really, but coming out of a dark spiral always gives me some new insight into my triggers and weaknesses. This time, I want to really try to implement strategies into my life that are extremely consistent, whether it’s a good day or a bad day.

On a related note, I’ve also been thinking about my mindset going into the holidays. I think to a certain extent I am getting excited about the holiday season, but I’m also starting to hit the anxiety portion of that excitement. So it feels like I’m yo-yoing a little, going back and forth from excited to anxious to apathetic sometimes. The stress of plans and schedules and gift giving is a lot, but I’m trying to stay on top of it and enjoy things for what they are in the moment that they are.


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Where have my thoughts been?

Since I’ve been working on focusing my thoughts and just being aware of them in general, I’m noticing a lot of trends. Mainly, I tend to avoid things. A lot. Many times, I don’t want to stress myself out, so I just avoid anything that has to do with… say… the recent election, personal finances, planning out the distant future, social situations, etc. The list could go on for a long

while. And while it’s good that I’m working on not being stressed, it’s also not a good thing to be avoiding things all the time. Sometimes we have to face the issues and actually deal with them. Running away isn’t a good option. But more on that another time…

What projects am I working on?

First of all, while I was writing this post up, I started thinking that it might be fun to write up this kind of post, in a shorter vision, on a weekly basis. It’s something that I’ll be thinking about. If you have a thought about it, let me know and I’ll add it to my notes.

All of the writing I’ve been doing this month has gotten my mind on blogging and novels, so I’m definitely working up some new projects in those areas. Mostly I’m just excited to be writing again – I forgot how much I love words!

In my personal life, I’ve started trying to learn again, since I’ve missed college lately (more on that another time). I’m also working on sorting out a manageable system so that between me and the husband, we can keep the house looking presentable, the kitties happy, and our schedules simplified. We’ve been discussing our options for the future, such as living options after our lease runs out next year, at what point we’re going to start a family, and a myriad of other things. Life choices – basically we’re still figuring out what married life is going to look like for us, so that’s always fun!

What have you been working on or focused on this past week?


Love and kindness,

Katharine Marie

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Looking Forward

Looking Forward

Hello beautiful, magical people!

At long last, I am back on the internet scene. Finally, I know, don’t remind me about how long it’s been since I last posted anything. *le sigh*

The whole reason I dropped my attempt at blogging a few months back was because it was far too stressful trying to plan our wedding, work a full time job (with whatever overtime I could manage to get) and still try to have a decent social/family life outside of work. It was very overwhelming and stressful for a while and I can’t say I handled it particularly well.


Even the most difficult journey can be beautiful.  Photo by Omer Salom on Unsplash


However. We got MARRIED, we’ve officially moved into our place, and life is FINALLY starting to calm down. I’ve been waiting not-so-patiently to get to a point in the unpacking where I felt relaxed enough to sit down and write this – and I’m actually writing this a week before it posts, so I actually feel ahead of the game for once. Yay!

I am going to write more about the wedding and that process in a later post, but for now we’ll say that it was the best day of my life. I didn’t think it was possible to love someone more than I did before the wedding, but as always, I’ve been proved wrong. I love my husband more every day – and yes, I know how horribly cliche that sounds, but it is also the truth. He’s been gently pushing me to get back to writing for a while now and I feel so blessed that I found someone who refuses to let me give up on anything. We’re pretty good for each other, if I do say so myself.

I wish there was more to say about everything that I’ve been up to lately, but honestly that’s about it. I’ve been so focused on the process of getting married that there just hasn’t been time for much else. I’m started to get excited now about the prospect of getting back to the projects that I love. I want to start playing piano again, reading more books, keeping my planner in order, decorating my house, participating in (and winning!) NaNoWriMo, and just working on writing projects in general again. It all sounds fantastic.

Having said that, I do plan to go back to posting here every week, and hopefully I’ll get six blog posts written every month. That’s the goal anyways. I would love to say that I’m just going to jump straight back in with all the social media posting and the super planned posts and all the extras. Yeah, that’s not going to happen. It never happens overnight and it’s going to be a slow process of building this thing up again.

There are a few things I want to accomplish over the rest of this year. Only four more months, can you believe it?!

I still want to finish another book this year – not necessarily published or anything like that, but having a completed manuscript would be awesome. Finishing any kind of project is an accomplishment for me, honestly! And winning NaNoWriMo is also included in this, since hopefully it will help me reach that goal of finishing a manuscript.

I also intend to implement several more lifestyle changes in my daily life. I want to continue keeping our apartment tidy and pretty, so that it becomes a warm and wonderful place to come home to. I want to improve my cooking skills and start working out on a regular basis – being healthier is always a good idea! I also want to make time on a regular basis for the creative projects that I enjoy doing sot hat I can feel more fulfilled again with my life (and that includes blogging!).

The biggest one though, in my mind, is that throughout the next four months, I want to work on embracing my emotional side and becoming more in tune with myself. Hopefully improving myself in those areas will help me become better at working through problems, I’ll be able to get even closer to my husband, and I will start loving myself more again. I’ve come to the conclusion recently that me not accepting who and what I am has been the real issue in my life for the last while. I think working on this will also kick-start my creative drive again – or at least that’s the plan!

There are a lot more things that I want to do over the next few months, of course, but that covers the main things that I’ve been thinking about lately. Besides blogging, of course! As you can probably see, I’ve changed up a few things about the website and the focus has also changed slightly, but it’s still the same me, and the same ideas!

I’ll be back next week with more content and a more complete website, so come back for more!

Love and kindness,

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