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Welcome Again

Hello lovely humans,

Blogging has been kind of hit or miss over the last… six? months. I’m unsure of a lot of things, but one thing that I know right now is that I am definitely not the same person (at least not on the inside) that I was a few years ago. Even one-year-ago me was different. In light of that, and also because I just rewrote my online bio things, I wanted to share a little about myself. So here are 25 things to know about Katharine.

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Friday’s Thoughts

Hello beautiful humans!

I should probably post more often again. It would help the things that I DO post to make more sense. Or at least it would help me with the problem I’m currently having where I sit down to write a post and then I feel the need to recap everything that has happened in the 2-3 weeks since my previous post, except that I really don’t feel like doing that because I could create a whole post about those happenings alone. SO instead, we’re gonna do two things. I’m gonna tell you a couple of random things about how my life is currently going (no context though) and then I’ve got a little store of thoughts in my head from therapy and just random internet searches that I wanna share. Here goes! Continue reading →

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Marriage after Children

Hi beautiful people!

Major apologies for not getting this up on Friday – I got online to post and discovered my website was down. So I ended up spending so much time fixing it that putting up a blog post seemed pointless afterward.

So… I am no relationship expert. Not by any means whatsoever. I just figure it out as I go along. And, like most things in life, I tend to try and stick to just a handful of basic rules while I do it. One of those rules that I knew I needed to keep in mind, way before the Tiny Princess came along, was always put your marriage relationship first.
It might be a little harsh when I put it like that, but I know myself and I know that when life gets crazy, my priorities tend to get a little out of whack. So step one: know yourself, I guess? Easier said than done, right?

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The Happy Moments

Hello beautiful dreamers!
August has been a long month, just like 2020 has been a long year. There’s been a lot of hard days for me personally, but it hasn’t been all bad. There are still plenty of positives to focus on. Since I dealt with a lot of the more negative aspects during the rest of the month, this week is for happier things.

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Babies and Sleep

Hi lovely dreamers!

Next week, my sweet baby girl turns 10 months old. I’m still not sure where the time went, but it’s going way too fast and I don’t like it. Ah well.

Before she was born, I had a lot of parenting goals, and I was really banking on instilling good sleep habits from the beginning. Easier said than done though, considering that the sleep deprivation was real and tiny babies are too cute not to be held all the time.

I read multiple books and scoured so many websites about babies and their sleep habits, and quite honestly, I got way too caught up in the various steps I should be taking to ensure the happy sleeping baby that I was wanting.

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She slept really well for the first three months and then started waking up sporadically throughout the night. Since then it’s been anyone’s guess how well she’ll sleep during the night. We’ve had some stretches of co-sleeping, issues with what seemed to be night terrors (not sure though?), and some short stretches of great nights where she only woke up once to eat. Right now we’re in the middle of what seems to be some kind of sleep regression where she’s up as many times a night as she was as a newborn. Thank heavens for coffee.

So yeah, this post is not about how to sleep train a baby or some kind of success story because as much as my goal is to have a baby that sleeps through the night, my real goal is to have a happy, healthy baby. That is the most important thing. Even if I miss my sleep something terrible. But either way, I wanted to write a little about the process so far.

Adaline has become very skilled in putting herself to sleep. She knows when nap time is, she might fuss because she doesn’t want to go to sleep, but 9 times out of 10, once I turn off the light and leave the room, I don’t hear another sound for at least an hour or two. The same goes for bedtime at night – she’s usually a perfect little angel. I love not having to spend a huge chunk of time trying to put her to sleep every day. We worked hard at those skills, using a very controlled version of Ferber sleep training. Not everyone agrees with letting babies cry on their own, and neither I nor The Husband could deal with the wailing and screaming. By the time we started working on this, I was very familiar with her different cries and could tell when she was actually upset and when she was just annoyed or fussing because she was tired. It probably took about two weeks total for her to really grasp the concept, but once she did we’ve never looked back. If she does have trouble putting herself to sleep its usually because I kept her up too long or something else that threw her routine off.

Nights like the last few where she’s up at all hours of the night make me seriously consider extinction methods of sleep training, but honestly, I would end up crying whether I was in the room with her or not, so I would much rather try to help her figure it out than just leave her be. She still strongly prefers to nurse back to sleep at night, so I’ve been attempting to wean her off of that since I know she is capable of going without the night feedings at this point. But when its 3am and you’re falling asleep in the rocking chair, its so easy to just do whatever works in the moment. Hahahh sleep deprivation. Yeah, anyways, we’re working on that. I’m preparing myself mentally to actually try and work with her during these night wakings next week, so we’ll see how it goes.

I’ve found myself wishing sometimes that people would be less judgmental about things like how babies sleep. Different things work differently for everyone. I really thought we would have it figured out by now too, but right now she still needs me during the night so that’s the way it is. I fall back on attachment parenting styles when I need the support and it makes me feel like a much better mom. I know I’m doing what’s right by my own child and regardless of what others might think about my parenting, she is happy, healthy, developing beautifully, and could not be more perfect.

That’s as much as I can find the words for on a coffee-fueled brain this week. I hope every other mom finds the support they need to feel like they are crushing it at this parenting gig!


Love, light, and kindness,

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2020 Quarter One Update

Hello lovely readers,

Somehow we’ve reached the point where we do review posts, and despite the insanity that the world right now, I want to go ahead and put these up. I don’t think anyone expected 2020 to take this direction, but we’re here now so we might as well make the best of it, right?

Since this is a look at how the first quarter of the year has gone, I’m going to cover the list of objectives I made for 2020 and see what’s happened in the past three months. And, because I’m practicing positive focus, I’m going to look ahead a little too.

2020 Objectives

The top three things on my list for this year were my home life, my own business, and my horses. I can’t say my house is really any cleaner, but I do think in a lot of ways it is happier and less stressful, and that is something I’m pleased about. Keeping our home as a safe space for us means we have more energy to help others, which is something I want to do more of in the future.

I haven’t exactly started my own business yet, but for the first time, I’m actually making some decent income from my writing and that is exciting in and of itself! I’ve been loving my little side jobs and I think I’m still reeling a bit from the fact that I’m actually a good enough writer to do this.

We’ve had a few setbacks from the rain and the mucky weather, but otherwise, I’ve been spending way more time with my horse than I have in a long while. I’m really enjoying it. Especially now that I’m a stay at home mom, ‘me time’ is even more important, and riding is just that. I have a lot of ambitions about hauling out to do some shows and endurance work and whatnot, but at this point, it’s a matter of seeing what gets canceled/postponed/rescheduled. My horse saw the vet yesterday and she is proclaimed in great shape for her age – we have his approval to go ahead with all my plans!

I had a list of other things I was hoping would come to fruition this year… some are definitely happening, others are still on the fence. Without much work, while we wait for COVID-19 to pass, it’s hard to continue saving money or planning any new trips so I’m not sure how those things will play out. I have been working to cook new meals every so often, and I have a nice little morning devotional routine that usually happens if I get up on time.

I did end up going back to school – halfway through my first course right now and we already went to our first film festival of the year! Even though I haven’t done well with blogging in March, the first two months of 2020 were great (7 posts each in January and February!) so I’ll just need to get back into a routine.

Again, apart from the last few weeks, I’ve actually been quite happy with how blogging has gone this year. I’ve stuck to the schedule I made instead of constantly making stuff up last minute, for once!


I’m honestly still a little wary of 2020 at this point. Being a US election year means it was already all sorts of insane, and currently The Husband is home and we are self-isolating until… I don’t know when exactly? I know there are so many other things that have happened this year already and it’s only March. I want to say that it can only get better, but I feel like that’s asking for trouble!

If I focus inward, my personal life has been pretty great this year. I have relationships with my family and friends that are better than ever (I think). I have been blessed enough to have opportunities to really focus on healing myself and pursue my goals and dreams. Even if the world feels like it’s falling apart, I still have plenty of things to be thankful for. We can all probably find something, or a few things, to be happy about, even during this dark period.


Love, LOTS of light, and much kindness,

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Finding A Moment of Hope

Dear beautiful readers,

Life has an interesting way of keeping us on our toes, doesn’t it? It feels like I blinked and suddenly two weeks were gone without a single blog post finished. I’m a little sad about that because I was doing really really well with my planned schedule. But it’s okay. Honestly, the time change hit me kind of hard and then it’s been a struggle to get out of bed without waking up the little one, and now I’m just out of the habit. Ah well.

My last post was on the 3rd, about how I’ve always been interested in anything and everything, but how it’s also changed for me in recent years. The weekend after I published that, we went on a little family road trip to Oklahoma for a film festival. I think we all learned something at that event (well, except for Adaline, who maybe learned that she doesn’t like long car rides? I don’t know) and it was really exciting to have things work out so we could go! Our first family road trip in the books!

We all know that in the last few weeks, everything has slowly started shutting down around the States due to COVID-19. Nothing reminds you of how little you actually get out like preparing to self-isolate but then realizing that you already never do anything. Other than driving to my mom’s to feed the horses, we’re now staying home for the time being. Even though I don’t really leave the house that often anyways, not being able to do so is more annoying than I thought. Let’s just say we’re going to be taking a lot of walks!

Speaking of… I’ll have to post an update on my horse blog yet, but I’m slowly making some progress in that area. The rain has kept me mostly grounded since I’m not about to try and ride in knee-deep mud and get me or the horse or both of us hurt. I finally got on yesterday and did a slow ride, which was fantastic! In the meantime, I have been able to start working with her vet on a good plan to get her in the best shape to be able to trail/endurance ride this year! You know, if there are any events left scheduled after this virus calms itself down (hopefully soon).

I haven’t really announced it very openly, but I started working on my bachelor’s degree a couple of weeks ago! I’m getting my Bachelor’s in English and Creative Writing through Southern New Hampshire University. The courses are only 8 weeks long and completely online, which works out really well for my schedule. So far I’m enjoying my first literature class and I’m excited to see where this all takes me!

Our little baby girl turned 6 months old two weeks ago and I would be lying if I said I didn’t need a good cry that day. She is getting so big and starting to sit up and move on her own. As much as I adore watching her figure out the world, I’m also frantically trying to rein in these amazing, precious moments as she grows up before my eyes.

It’s been a little rough on me mentally lately, partly because of the world’s situation right now. My therapist’s office is closed for in-person sessions until things blow over, and I’m still on the fence about the video sessions they’re working on offering. We’ll see. I didn’t realize how much I looked forward to my weekly session, lol! I’m also hoping that I can slowly start getting my morning hours back, which should allow me to get back to my regular blogging schedule and have more time for myself.

I love this space and I love all my readers! Everyone stay safe, don’t hoard anything stupid and enjoy whatever peace can be found in this crazy time. I’ll try to see you on Friday!

With all the love, light, and kindness I can muster,

-Katharine Marie

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A Closer Look – February 2020

Hello beautiful dreamers!

I can’t believe that tomorrow is the last day of February. And if it wasn’t a leap year, today would actually be the last day. Yikes. But that’s not important right now. The main thing is that I am so confused as to how we got here. I hadn’t bothered pulling up this post until a few days ago – to give some perspective, I got an email a while back about some paperwork that needed to be submitted by the 29th of February. And I haven’t been procrastinating, exactly, just honestly believing that I had plenty of time. And then on Tuesday I get another email saying I have four days left to complete my paperwork. I think I died a little on the inside. I mean, I’m ready for spring, but I’m NOT ready for March to be here already.

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So… what did we get up to in the incredibly short month of February?

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Well, we kicked off the month with this blog’s 100th post!! Which just so happened to be a ramble about how I’m attempting to continue reading more. Then we had a heart to heart about how rough it can be as a mom sometimes. I opened up a little with thirteen weird confessions that people really didn’t know about me and compared the differences between video content and the written word. Then we finished off with an update on how I’m feeling a month after leaving my job, and I offered a closer look at my personal morning routine.

All together, I had 7 blog posts in February, and 14 as the running total for 2020.

In the Books…

Last month I did better with my reading than I had in a very long while, but that all changed once I was no longer working and I’m still figuring out how to fit it in consistently. As such, I didn’t really finish anything in it’s entirety during the month of February, but I did read!

Firstly, this month I had my best streak with reading a passage of Scripture on a regular basis. Apart from a few random days here and there (weekends mostly) I sat down and read a few chapters almost every morning.

I read portions of a book on natural remedies for kids to help me get a little prepared to start my own apothecary! Not entirely kidding – I’m excited to buy some herbs and create some really cool stuff in my kitchen.

I also read part of Gentle Birth, Gentle Mothering, a book I actually picked up way back in the early stages of my pregnancy. I don’t necessarily subscribe to all the parenting tips in it, but I consistently fall back on the ideas presented when I doubt myself as a mother.

On the Screen…

This month I was able to configure the budget and The Husband got the larger tv that he’s been wanting. That was exciting! And then I had to ask him what all we watched this month because even with the larger screen my brain still didn’t remember what it showed.

I have a tiny kid in the house, so we watch a lot of cartoons. I LOVE Disney Plus because I can put on the classic princess movies and we can dance around to all the songs. It’s awesome. She also loves the theme songs to several other cartoons like DuckTales and My Little Pony. She could care less about the actual show, but she loves theme songs!

Speaking of Disney Plus, we finally watched the live action Lion King!! It was better than I was expecting and yes, I did cry all over again. Sniff sniff.

Since the Princess was so super tiny, we didn’t get to go see Zombieland: Double Tap in the theater like we hoped/planned, so we rented it this month and got a lot of laughs out of it! Still don’t know why I enjoyed it that much, but it was really funny.

Writing Things Down…

I think I was really hoping to be much further along on rewriting my book project than I am right now, but it’s okay. Other things took precedence this month and I’ve accepted that. I’m kind of thinking that regardless of how March goes, I’m going to use Camp Nanowrimo in April to give myself a bit of a goal and see if that helps.

I’ve also been journaling a LOT more, so I’m counting that as a win, and I only missed one post on my blogging schedule, which happened the week that we were all sick so I’m not upset about that! Plus, I got my first side gig so I’ve been learning the ins and outs of different styles of writing and enjoying that!

Other Hobbies

I’ve actually been able to ride and I’m so happy! Ideally I want to get out to the farm to ride my horse three-ish times a week and it’s been a little hit or miss because of the rain, but I’ve had a lot of fun getting back to my all-time favorite hobby.

The Tiny Princess seems to like when I play the piano so I’ve done a bit more this past month. I’ve been working on a piano version of a Coldplay song and I’m starting to play around with one from Metallica.

The other week I got a little restless at home, but couldn’t come up with any kind of errands to go run, so I started baking. And guess whose house has had either cookies or something other sort of baked good around since then. It’s mine….. whoops.

Home and Family

Tiny Princess update! She rolls from her back to her tummy all. the. time. But still won’t roll from her tummy to her back, although the last few days we’ve gotten a lot closer! She is extremely busy and can be very demanding. She loves to sit up, especially if we put her in the corner of the couch so she can practice doing it on her own. I feel like she’s going to be quite independent quite quickly. Sad day. She LOVES it when daddy gets home from work and she likes going out for walks on nice days. She’s about to be six months old in a week or so and I don’t know if I can handle that…

We all ended up getting sick during February – baby’s first cold! – and I’ve definitely struggled with keeping things in order around the house, but The Husband is always very quick to remind me that being a mom is a full time job (see above where I said she is extremely busy) so I’ve gotten better about being a little flexible.

2020 Intentions

In February I really focused on my spiritual self and actually have a nice little morning routine that includes that aspect. I cooked several different meals that I hadn’t tried before and they turned out pretty great! We got a little headstart going on our house savings. And I got accepted to the college I wanted!!


Love, light, and kindness!

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thirteen confessions

Hello fellow dreamers!

In January, I posted what I called an Updated Introduction, basically telling everyone who I am and what I do or whatever.

Well, today I thought I would continue on that train of thought. The original plan as I started writing this post was just to do random facts about me, but then it evolved into a list of confessions? I’m still decided whether I’ll regret this or not, but regardless, here it is! This is also connected with some social media posts I’m going to be making throughout the rest of February, so maybe it’s not totally random. I don’t know.

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One. I still can’t wrap my mind around how to maintain small talk. I just find it so awkward and difficult that I always want to run as far away as possible.

Two. I barely feel comfortable calling myself a writer most of the time. Wouldn’t a real writer actually finish projects more regularly and not procrastinate so much? I feel like I talk a lot but don’t actually follow through.

Three. Even at 25 years old, I’m still afraid of the dark. That’s why I don’t watch horror movies, or even anything remotely creepy after the sun goes down.

Four. Some days I don’t want to be a mom. I want to put that whole identity in a box and go do something else for a few days. I know it’s a totally normal feeling, but it still makes me feel guilty.

Five. I’m weirdly obsessed with Billie Eilish right now? I know the whole world kind of is at the moment, but still.

Six. I’ve had the idea of possibly fostering kids sitting in the back of my mind since I was pretty young, like maybe twelve or thirteen. I’m still interested, but who knows.

Seven. One of the things my social anxiety tells me is that nobody believes what I say – nobody actually believes that I suffer with depression or anxiety.

Eight. I kind of really want another tattoo, even though I have no idea what.

Nine. The Husband is always turning on really awful movies (like the bad 90s stuff) for us to watch and honestly, I enjoy them a lot more than I want to admit.

Ten. I really think I could have some form of ADHD. My brain is a mess.

Eleven. I didn’t want a relationship. I wasn’t interested in getting married or even having children. But then that cliche happened: “when you meet the right person.” Even though it was absolutely true in my case and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been, I still get annoyed that the cliche was true for me.

Twelve.There is a long on-going struggle in my mind about letting go of all the work I put into having a musical career. I know that in the end it wasn’t the career I truly wanted, but I still have some issues letting it go.

Thirteen. You know what I said earlier about being afraid of the dark? Well, I still listen to the soundtracks from those movies sometimes because the thrill is just a little too much fun. I know, super weird.


I have a weird thing about confessions and I’ve enjoyed similar blog posts from other people, so that’s why I’m sharing this now. If you don’t follow me on Instagram or Facebook (Instagram in particular) then you should go do that now because I’ll be doing several posts over the next few weeks related to this list. It’s really vulnerable writing something like this, but I’m working to let go a little and we’ll see what happens!

What’s something about you that nobody really knows about?


Love, light, and a multitude of kindness,

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A Closer Look – January 2020

Hi wonderful dreamers!

When I made my objectives for 2020, I mentioned a little about how I’m not doing very specific goals this year, but rather working towards certain priorities and intentions, if that makes sense. So, in light of that, I decided not to do monthly goals either. Firstly, because I’m terrible at updating them every month, and secondly, I wanted to do exactly what I’m here to do today. And that is, post an update about January – not necessarily what goals I did or didn’t do, per-se, but just… what happened, I guess?

So. January has felt very long and very short all at the same time. The Husband and I had decided that I would be staying at home with the Tiny Princess for at least a while, and last Friday, the 24th, was my last day at my full time job. So I spent most of January looking ahead to that change, and then this past week has been a lot of figuring out what that change actually looks like. But I’m loving it so far!

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Photo by Jeff Siepman on Unsplash

Here on Elemental Dreamer…

On this blog, we had a variety of content. I talked about the things I’m striving for in 2020 and I rambled about my emotions surrounding quitting my job to be a stay at home mom. I offered a few motivational journal prompts for those rougher days, and then you guys all got to meet me all over again in my updated introduction! I put out a poll asking what kind of blogging content you all prefer – it’s still open if you haven’t voted yet! – and I’m working on using those results appropriately. And then last week, I asked what you would wish for your life to look like in ten years, and offered my own dreams! And now we’re here!

In the Books…

So… surprisingly, I didn’t do half bad on the reading front. I read four books on my Kindle, and started another one that I don’t think I’ll be finishing because the writing is just grating to me.

Country Heaven, by Ava MilesActually a pretty great romance novel, only a little cheesy, and the plot was actually really good!

A Deadly Delivery: A Psychic Cafe Mystery, by April FernsbyIf you couldn’t guess, it’s a mystery story and the main character is a psychic. This one was just okay, not fabulous, but it did keep me entertained the whole way through. Honestly, the psychic aspect of the main character wasn’t that well written, even though she was great otherwise!

Cappucinos, Cupcakes, and a Corpse, by Harper LinYeah, I read several crime novels this month. This one was better than the previous one – no psychics – although parts of it did seem kind of far fetched. I’m just confused – do random civilians go around solving murders all the time, or just in books?

Casino Girl, by Leslie WolfeOkay, fair warning, this is the second book in a series, but I didn’t realize that when I downloaded it and I still very much enjoyed it! Another crime novel, but this time the main character is actually a detective, so much more believable. There were certain aspects that didn’t quite make sense, probably because I didn’t read the first one yet (I’m going to!) but regardless, I was very invested in this story from beginning to end. This is the one I highly recommend out of all the crime novels I read this month!

On the Screen…

I’m woefully behind on the new movies right now – we missed the entire holiday theater selection, but I heard there were some fantastic movies out there! What I did watch, however…

Once Upon A Time… In Hollywood was fantastic. Very, very different, though pretty much normal for a Quentin Tarantino movie, and we actually talked about it the next few days.

I’m still loving the Disney Plus content – makes it super easy to pop a movie on for the Tiny Princess if we need to, plus we got to watch the new live action Aladdin all over again!

I’m currently binge/re-watching Grace and Frankie on Netflix so I can watch the new season, Husband and I are working through How I Met Your Mother (a re-watch for me, new laughs for him) and Grey’s Anatomy is back on!

My Own Words…

I didn’t get as much written as I originally wanted to, but I’ve still made progress. I opened my current book project to start editing, and then decided two pages in that it needed a whole rewrite. So that’s what happening there. Beyond that, it’s just been blog posts for you all!

All Other Hobbies…

By the time this post goes up, I’ll have made my first trek out to the farm to ride my horse! If you didn’t already know, you can read about that under that tab up there that says horses. I’m excited to be riding again, even if its miserably cold and wet right now.

Home and Family…

The Tiny Princess CAN roll over now, she just mostly chooses not to. She learned to growl this past month, and also do that shrill scream that annoys me to no end. But besides some really rough teething moments, she’s been doing really well. We even had one incident where she slept the entire night. Hasn’t happened since then, but it gives me hope!

This past week I helped Husband with one of his video projects by providing some voice overs – new territory for me, but I kind of had fun! I even think I would do more of it for him in the future if he needs it. And I just remembered that he reads this… whoops.

Being home now also means I’ve started to really tackle some of the bigger house cleaning, and I love having a more organized space!

2020 Intentions…

The biggest step I made on my ideas for the year was applying to colleges, and even picking one in particular that I really liked! I’m still wading through paperwork, but hopefully that goes through and I can get my acceptance this next month!


Well, that went on ridiculously longer than I anticipated, but hey, it was kind of fun, right?

What did you do in January?

 

Love, light, and kindness for all,

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