time management

time management failings

Hi beautiful readers!

I hope everyone had a great Easter, despite the social distancing making a dent in a lot of people’s plans. We had a whole lot of storms over the weekend, but still managed to have a little bit of holiday fun and dressed up the Tiny Princess just because. She was so stinking adorable in her little Easter dress.

I’m not great at time management. Or prioritizing things that need to be done, come to think of it. I’ve had less than stellar health for several years and I tend to need more rest time throughout the day than someone else my age might need to. And then I’m working through some harmful perfectionist habits that make it hard to get as much done as I would like. And now I realize that there is a lot to unpack in this paragraph already, but today is not that day.

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It was slightly easier to manage my time when I was working because there was less of it to deal with. The few hours in the morning and the few hours in the evening, and once you consider making food in those hours, they dwindle down even further. I think I got a fair amount of stuff done in the little bit of time I had, but it never ever felt like enough.

And then I quit my job to stay at home and suddenly I had all the hours of the day to play with. Theoretically, of course, because baby. Before she was born, I usually set timers for myself. If I cleaned in the living room for 20 minutes, I got a rest break, or I would write for 15 minutes, or whatever. Timers are no longer as effective a strategy though because there is no telling when I’ll have to drop everything and do something for her.

Now, I try to get one chore done during each of her naps. Or I fold the laundry while we play on the floor. And I’m starting to teach her about picking up toys so that the house doesn’t get overrun. It’s a different sort of challenge.

If you google time management there will be a billion things that pop up. Everyone has a different way that they organize their day and prioritize their to-do lists. And nobody’s way is wrong. My strategies look totally different right now during quarantine because The Husband is home and that changes a lot of things around. (basically, my strategies flew out the window. help.)

This lovely post from Blessed Simplicity outlines six tips for time management as a stay at home mom and I’m doing my best to implement the ideas she lays out. We’re still in the middle of setting a good schedule for the Tiny Princess so of course that takes precedence over everything else right now, but I’m looking forward to having a little more stability and order in all of our lives once that is established. The other tips in the post are also things I’ve been trying to do. Sometimes they happen, sometimes they don’t. I mentioned last week that I do try to wake up earlier so I can get a headstart (aka wake up) before she does. That’s probably the most consistent thing I do, and even that’s not all that consistent. Yesterday I got up at 6:30. Today it was 7:30. Ah well.

Maybe one of these days I’ll have more strategies that I can write about, but all I’m here to say today is that time management is HARD, especially for creative folks. And it’s okay not to be perfect with how you manage or break up your day. If you did anything at all, you’ve succeeded. And that’s that.

Maybe one of these days I’ll make some more coherent blog posts, but today is also not that day! Until that day arrives, enjoy my ramblings because I have a feeling this is what quarantine has done to my brain!


Love, light, kindness, AND happiness today and all the days!

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Posted by katharine_marie in Anxiety, Creative Writing, General, Life in 2020, Life of a Writer, Lifestyle, 0 comments

the night owl life

Hi beautiful readers!

This is our third (fourth?) week of social distancing and I think it’s safe to say that we’ve been getting a little bored around the house. Of course, having a 7 month old who is trying to explore keeps things interesting, but still. We have found ourselves unsure what to do after 8pm when she’s asleep, and yet, somehow staying up until ungodly hours because I guess we have too much energy from not doing anything? I don’t really know. There’s a lot of things I don’t really know right now, I guess!

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I have always had a tendency to stay up late and sleep in. But I’m not all that great at being productive late at night – if I can drag myself out of bed in the morning, then that’s usually my most productive time of the day. And since the Tiny Princess came along, I have had an easier time getting up early because if I don’t get up before she does, I won’t have any time to myself during the day. And that is actually very important to me.

Despite loving to sleep in though, I’m never excited about going to bed in the evenings. Weird, I know. It might be my OCD perfectionist thing, but I don’t like the process of going to bed. Maybe because as soon as I lay down I think of the million things that I did NOT do that day. Or because I never fall asleep easy. Who knows, but even though I rarely do anything after 10pm other than watch tv, I’ll probably stay up late doing that instead of going to bed like a sane person. Ah well.

Apparently most people who are known for being determined and productive and successful have something in common – they are all disciplined in the art of getting up early. And I totally see why that’s true. But there are very different aspects of my brain that are working at different times of day. I will never ever wake up in the morning and be able to jump headfirst into a creative writing idea or an art project. Just won’t happen. But I can organize a blog post, or clean up the house, or something more on the logical side of my brain. And I’ve talked to a lot of people who seem to be the same way.

Would I like to be the person who wakes up early every single day and gets a whole bunch of stuff done before 8am? Yeah, that sounds really productive and nice and also completely not for me. I’ll stick to getting up early enough to have alone time before the Princess wakes up and staying up later than I probably should. Because I can!

Although a lot of the time, the 11-12 hours of sleep that the Tiny Princess is getting sounds really really amazing, don’t you think?

And yes, I absolutely just made a blog post rambling about sleep and early mornings. Quarantine is getting to me, y’all.


Love, light, and kindness,

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Posted by katharine_marie in Anxiety, Depression, General, Life in 2020, mental health, 0 comments