words

Thoughts on Words, Support, and Culture

Hello, beautiful darlings,

Is it just me or has this felt like the looonngggessst week ever? I’m getting so sick of shutdowns and being trapped at home and not being able to function like a normal human being. Ughhhh…

Anywho. Today I wanted to jump straight in and have a little chat about mental illness and a few of the things that really affect it, especially right now. Heavy subject matter maybe, but it’s something I’ve been thinking about lately.

Over the last ten years or so, possibly longer if I could remember, I’ve heard comments from all sorts of people about how mental illness must just be laziness or some other such nonsense.

“It’s all in your head.”

“Have you tried NOT being depressed?”

“You have nothing to worry about, your life is great!”

“You must not be trying hard enough. If you do X, you’ll get over it more quickly.”

“I know someone who did X and they’re totally normal now!”

Ad nauseam, on and on and on again.

Please. Just. Stop. It.

I’m begging you.

First of all, mental illness is just that. An illness. Would you say those same things to someone who was suffering from a physical medical diagnosis? I’m willing to bet that you would not. Well, some people might, but most people wouldn’t. Not only that, but mental illness is not considered an acute illness. There is such a thing as situational depression or anxiety that is caused by a traumatic event, of course, but the majority of cases are CHRONIC. Meaning that there are good phases, there are bad patches, and there’s everything in between. We keep keeping on, doing the things that help keep us in the good places and move on.

Trying to find the support that is truly needed is hard. I personally have a very small number of people that I would consider reaching out to during a really rough patch. I may write about it all on here, but 9 times out of 10, I’m writing about the experience after the worst is over.

Mental willpower is something that people misunderstand, though, and that seems to play into a lot of the bizarre comments that I and many other folks with mental issues have received. Religious communities tend to give pat answers like “pray harder!” or “if you have enough faith/trust, God will release you from your illness.” I’m sorry, but that just isn’t the case! Of course, I believe that God has the power to take away our struggles and our ailments – that not what I’m saying at all. The problem with these answers is that they’re pretty and easy. They put all the blame at the feet of the suffering individual. And we’re not meant to go through things all alone, we’re meant to go through them together, with community and encouragement and love.

The other thing that contributes to a lot of this problem is simply the culture that we have right now. The world is lonely. We have social media and memes and entertainment at our fingertips, and we’re always working and running from this place to the next. We have no true connection. We don’t have people that we do life with on a basic, emotional level. Like I said, we’re meant as humans to have a community. We’re not meant to go through life alone. And I’m not talking romantically alone, I mean having meaningful friendships and relationships that you cultivate and nurture.

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Photo by DJ Johnson on Unsplash

Trust me, I am preaching myself more than anyone right now. I have failed my friends in so many ways. I have pushed people away, and I struggle every single day just to text people back when they reach out. Nobody said that the things that we truly need would be easy to find. They take work and believe me when I say that I am SO awful at searching for community and friendship. But the times that I push through and actually try? Those are the moments that I really treasure and hold close.

That’s my little rant for the day, and reading back over this, I realize that I’ve glossed over a lot of deep topics that could very easily be turned into their own posts – so I guess that will probably happen in the future. All I’m trying to say right now is think about how powerful words can be and how important we are to each other.

What do you think? Is this something that you think about and struggle with too? I would love to hear other people’s thoughts on these ideas. 🙂


Love, kindness, and so many hugs!

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Posted by katharine_marie in Anxiety, Depression, General, Life in 2020, mental health, 0 comments

the importance of words

Hello lovely dreamers!

So far my blogging content has been a bit all over the place this month. The way I planned out this first quarter of the year was a bit random for that reason. Well, not random… maybe exploratory would be a better word. I’ve been making little notes on which content takes the most work to put out, what people seem to read the most of, what I enjoy writing the most, etc, etc.

The Husband is a filmmaker and he’s always dragging me into his various projects. I actually really enjoy it, even if I am absolutely not comfortable in front of the camera. At all – it makes me nervous and weird and just really awkward all around. But being a writer means we can collaborate in all kinds of ways on projects, so I try to get over the awkwardness sometimes to help him out.

Many, many online platforms – blogs, social media, whatever – have turned to video as their main source of content and I completely understand why. Our culture has quickly latched onto videos as the ideal method of online communication. Like, if The Husband has something he needs to look up, I guarantee you he’s not going to pull up an article and read it, looking for what he wants. He’s on Youtube, clicking around between videos and finding the one he likes best.

But I still don’t work that way. I still prefer to type my query into Google and find a nice, detailed informative article about my topic. I only really started actually watching those Facebook videos a year or so ago.

So the society, the people who are taking in the content we produce, does have a strong tendency towards video.

But I’m not entirely sure whether this blog is the place to carry video content, although it’s something I’ve considered a lot in the past.

Do I have some ideas in mind for video projects surrounding this blog? Absolutely and I hope to start on a few of them this year yet! But this isn’t ever going to become a video-centric blog because hello! words! that’s the whole reason I’m here at all.

Sometimes it makes me a little sad that blogging seems to be fading a little, but I have to remember just how many blogs I personally read and follow and maybe, even though it’s not necessarily the height of online content creation anymore, it is still a very valued piece of the internet and it’s never going away.

This is why, even though I love my Kindle and use it more often than not, I still insist on collecting real, physical books. Because writers and books are the reasons we know what we do about the past. Without books and poems and blogs and everything in between, we lost some of that connection to the previous generation.

Working with The Husband on all these video projects has really given me such a fascination for the art that he creates, but my first love is still words on paper (sorry, love!) and I will keep writing down my thoughts and ideas and teaching my daughter to love the special stories and adventures that can found only between the covers of a book.

What are your thoughts on the way the world is with media these days?


Love, light, kindness, and adventures galore!

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Posted by katharine_marie in Blog Writing, Books & Writing, Creative Writing, General, Life of a Writer, 0 comments

an attempt to read more

hi folks,

First off, this is my 100th post on Elemental Dreamer! I’m so excited that we made it this far! Since I started this particular blog in September of 2018, I have not missed posting for a single month. I have to say that this is my favorite space of all the ones I’ve posted on in my history of blogging and I’m so happy you all are along for the ride. It can only get better, right??

So last week, in my January recap, I went over the books I had read during the month. And, actually, I’m quite proud of myself because it has been a challenge in the last few years to really find the time to read more. I have a massive collection of books but I really don’t read like I want to. i think that’s just about everyone’s complaint, isn’t it?

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Photo by Ed Robertson on Unsplash

Part of what happened, is that I committed to reading on my breaks at work. Since I was pumping, I couldn’t leave or do just anything on my lunch. I actually had to sit down and stay put, so I read. And there are a fair amount of words you can read on a thirty minute break twice a day! But already, in the week and a half that I’ve been staying home, it’s become a lot harder to read like I was. I’ve managed to keep up with my writing, but that’s hard too!

So I’m working on a plan to make the reading a priority in my day to day life now that it looks so different.

The main thing I can think of is that I could read instead of mindlessly watching tv in the evenings. The Husband and I spend some time together once The Princess is in bed, but he also works on his film editing and sometimes I’m trying to scramble and get the last few things done around the house, even though I know I need to take that time to relax.

So I present this question to you all – how do you fit reading into your daily life, if you do at all? 

I love how much more creative my mind is when I read on a regular basis, so it’s something I definitely want to spend more time on.


Love, light, and much kindness. Happy 100 posts, Elemental Dreamers!

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Posted by katharine_marie in Blog Writing, Books & Writing, Life in 2020, Life of a Writer, Setting Goals, 0 comments